How can I be there for a friend with benefit? ?
I had a friend for a few years, we weren’t the closest, just friends. Recently we hooked up & we labeled ourselves as casual (friends with benefit) and none of our mutual friends know. So his mom passed away & although I have this urge to be there for him, I know we were just casual. It’s not like we shared a lot of time or talked often, just got drunk and had some fun. I don’t know how to be there, because I’m not sure of my place. Do I keep contacting him, and texting him? Just offer some words, I did go with other friends to the wake and paid my respects. Again this all happened within the last two months. I feel very conflicted. I want to naturally do more, but I know it’s overwhelming and I’m just his friend at the end of the day.
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You contact him once and only once to let him know you're there if he needs anything. If he doesn't respond then you leave him alone.
Contact him and express your sympathy for him at this time. If you live near where the funeral will be, make a brief appearance at the viewing and again again express your sympathy for him in person.
Give it a week, and then call him up and invite him to do something funny with you (and maybe some other friends.). Take him out to a dinner (your treat) and something he enjoys doing.
When the evening is over let him know that if he needs anything form you he just needs to let you know.
Often just letting someone know that you care is the most and the best you can do.