A few months ago I had my heart broken by one of my best friends, since then I don’t really feel like I’m the same person anymore. I don’t look at women the same anymore. I used to be interested in a woman that I felt like I could fall in love with, but now I don’t really care anymore. I just want sex; I know that’s normal, but with her that wasn’t my top priority at all. I just loved her and I would have waited forever to have sex with her, as long as I got to be with her I really wouldn’t have cared…
I don’t feel comfortable with thinking like this. Is it normal for this to happen after you get your heart broken? Am I just becoming more like a normal guy? I just feel like I’m becoming a horrible person…
I’m wondering if I just feel like this because I haven’t found anyone else that I would have normally been interested in. There is a girl that I know likes me but I feel like it would be wrong to go out with her while I feel like this.
Do you think I’ll ever stop feeling like this?
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poor thing, losing your first love is always the hardest, give yourself a respectful amount of time to get over the situation before you go around breaking hearts and give yourself a bad rep. if you date these other girls solely for sex and you end up hurting them, what good is that for you? it is normal to feel this way, it just takes time, it's called healing, just hang out with your friends, surround yourself with good, positive people and get into an activity or hobby that you love, don't worry about any girls, you'll eventually meet another girl who will make you feel love again, and when you do, you can start something good with her, if she breaks your heart again, repeat....life is about living and learning and growing along the way, ya know? i'm glad you've acknowledged that you don't want to be an @ss though, that's the first step to recognizing what you should do, good luck and best wishes to you!! keep your head up =)
You need a valence of both it can't just be either or.