It’s always said that when you’re in a relationship it’s normal to be attracted to other people but I don’t know, I don’t find myself being attracted to other people I’m not even attracted to my boyfriend. I may sound like I’m totally contradicting myself but at some point I was, sexually and emotionally but I’ve gotten to a point where I’m detaching myself and if him and I grow apart I don’t see myself getting in another relationship, I don’t want to get married or have children. I don’t consider myself asexual because I have been sexually attracted to people, but now it’s totally different for me. My outlook on relationships is different, not saying that they’re not real or a waste of Time they’re just not meant for me... why do you think why?
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The feeling of sexual attraction (just like the feeling of emotional attraction) waxes and wanes as time goes along. This is just normal human experience - you just don't hear about it or read about it because it doens't "sell" as well as stories and articles about romance. The fact is, none of us feels the same way every day of our lives - not about the sunrise, not about the birds singing in the trees, not about our dog wanting to lick our faces... not even about our spouse or our kids. Our feelings for everything in the world around us are not constant or permanent. That's just how we are - all of us.
You don't feel attracted to other people right now. No problem. Maybe you will in a month. Maybe you will in six months or twelve. Maybe you never will. That's all within the normal scope of the way humans experience things. Don't worry about it. Some people are much happier and much more fulfilled living without such attractions.
If this situation distresses you, you can seek some counseling, but the goal of that should be to help you be at peace with your new feelings, rather than to scramble your way back to the way you used to be.
Finding someone you are content with is much harder than finding someone who lights the spark. The heart deceives us in so many ways but when it is a head thing you know it is right. I married my best friend because he was in love with me and I didn't want to hurt him. I couldn't picture my life without him in it. I'd been with other guys I had feelings for and I could picture a future with them but I could also picture a future without them too. When you find a man who you can be you with, who makes you feel comfortable and safe and you never want to have to live without that is the man for you. As for my husband, I am kind to him and have sex even when I'm not in the mood cause it's the polite thing to do. We have three kids together and I sleep in his arms every night and he is so, so heartpoundingly in love with me even after 10 years. As long as I never tell him we are good. Love is a commitment to seek out the best in someone else, to be there for them in the hard times, to stay with them in the boring times. Love is a lot more than a feeling, it is active. If you find someone you like to spend a lot of time with who shares your goals in life and makes you feel comfortable and safe that it the right guy for you. Hearts lie, actions don't. If he loves you your feelings don't matter.
time to talk to a therapist. It would be a real shame to go through life without any love.