we can’t seem to stop arguing (after a year and a half) of the pettiest things EX: we fought about going to church, who does that?We only argued because his ex of 7 years goes there and he refused to go to that church because he knew I would get mad if he said hi(which I don’t feel is appropriate) and he said he wouldn’t be rude to her because “she’s always been good to him” which made me even more mad! He says I’m needy and childish. I am 22 years old and he is 34.He works from 9am to 7 at night and goes to the gym for an hour afterwards, therefore coming home at 8 o’clock. I do want whatever time he has left since we go to sleep at 11 the absolute latest. Everytime we do something he invites friends of family or it involves friends and family and he says that I’m antisocial which i don’t think I am I just want our alone time. He blames me for his kids12,17,18, not talking to him because they don’t like me. He Has been good to me in general but we can’t seem to work things out.When I moved in I would get mad and leave for any reason and he would go chase meI wasn’t happy about him having a full blown conversation with his ex of 7 years telling her that she needed to move in after a year of us being together and he didn’t tell me about it, somehow I knew, other things we fight about are things like his daughter rolling her eyes at me! When he gets mad he says he can get anyone he wants but chooses to be with me because of the way he feels for me and those comments hurt me too
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Well first of all why would someone be rude to another person in church of all places? Really, grow the hell UP. Why would you get mad if he said hello to someone he knows? Your thinking is irrational.
If you want your own alone time sometimes, then stay home when he goes out to have fun with his family or friends. You two aren't attached at the hip, and couples often times do things separately. This is not the end of the world.
And if his kids don't like you it's because they are KIDS and their parents split up. They resent the fact that Dad is with someone else. Just behave like a caring adult around them, and be patient. You dont have to over do it, but act like a decent person. They might change their tune when you start acting like an adult.
He has an ex, and if they have kids together, then they have to talk. And it's a good idea to try and remain friends with an ex, especially if there are kids involved. what is your problem?
Why would she move in?
He can't have anyone he chooses. It would be a cold day in hell before most women would get involved with him because of the three kids. And along with that, im' sure he's not Adonis.
I have a hard time believing any of this stuff in your question but i responded anyway. why? because i've never heard such idiotic stuff, and i'm truly hoping it's all made up.
By yourself you will never resolve your numerous problems
You need a good therapist
who will help you and your husband to understand each other