cry profusely

Whenever you invite a girl to live with you who can't hold a job for more than a few months at a time they will never contribute a dime. Often enough cutting them off financially and stop buying groceries will either prompt them to get a job or move out eventually. She needs to feel like she needs a job for herself, if she gets a job for you then she will hate you for it. Otherwise there's no changing people like that, things will get only much worse if you married or had kids with her. I'm sure she will tell you she will be on the street to make you feel guilty, but in reality I'm sure she will end up with sympathetic family or friends. Some people always have to learn things the hard way.

Tell her, but also speak to a lawyer.

In some places, she could sue you for "palimony".

You aren t married. She isn t your problem.

Can she support herself and lives a productive life?

or are you supporting her?

HUGE difference.

Some people are independently wealthy and do not need to work and spend their time doing other productive activities, which is fine.

If you are supporting her, she is being incredibly lazy, selfish and unreasonable, and you are doing nothing but facilitating her.

You have 3 options

stay, say nothing and resent her and yourself

leave and at long last allow both of you to live the lives you deserve

or, tell her she has X amount of weeks to secure employment and start contributing XX% of the household running expenses or its over.

So tell her how you are feeling. Let her know that you did not intend on supporting her financially -that she needs to pull her weight-that the stress of being the sole breadwinner is too much for you and you are not going to be doing this much longer by yourself--and then get ready to walk. DON"T be a cheater-it is cowardly and you will lose respect for yourself.

You're not responsible for taking care of someone who refuses to take care of herself.

She's made it clear that this is who she is. And she's not going to change. You cannot "fix" her or convince her to change her ways.

If you don't want a future with a woman who refuses to get a job and expects you to just take care of her for her whole life, then this isn't the woman for you.

Tell her this. Be honest with her. Tell her that you do not want to be the only working person in your relationship. TEll her you are losing faithin her., losing respect and falling out of love with her.

Which it sounds like you are. Prepare yourself, there MAY be no way back from that point.

Good luck!