So I ask my husband for about 7-8 favors a day and he gets annoyed with it. It’s little things but he’s begun to get fed up with it. I feel like he should like it that I ask him for so much. He’s a great provider for the family till the point when I make little complaints about him to others they laugh at me and say I should be grateful and stop wanting so much. He cleans he provides he protects and he’s a great father . But just because of that should I just leave him alone? Is asking for help 7-8 times a day too much? I don’t think him being a great provider isn’t that important it’s nice but not really so he says he’s getting his own bank account is he wrong or so I need to chill? I think he thinks since he’s super dad and provides he doesn’t think he he needs to do more. Yes he cleans and does the yard and he gets me a lot of stuff but that isn’t enough to me. Do I want too much or not enough?
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I agree with what Charles said. If the roles were reversed, how would you feel? My wife does this and it pisses me off. I want to tell her to get off her lazy *** and do these things for herself.
Maybe he should start asking you for 7-8 favors a day, and badmouth you to other people including his friends. And then you can just smile and laugh and be ok with it.
Right?
Also, fair question: Are the kids biologically his, or did you cheat on him and cuckold him? I’m just curious and I do want to know the answer to this.
Help with WHAT? If he's the full time worker and provider then your job should be making a comfortable home for him, not asking for favors all day long.
You have a man who "....cleans, he provides, he protects and he’s a great father... being a great provider...he’s super dad...when I make little complaints about him to others they laugh at me and say I should be grateful..." and so you should be, girl. You have a good man there, and yet rather than appreciate him, you badger him with requesting 7-8 "favors" a day. Chances are those favors you keep asking for are "little things" you could probably do so easily do for yourself, I am guessing.
WHY does he need to be the only one concerned with how someone else (you) are feeling when you see nothing wrong in giving him little consideration as to how hard he works for you and your family, both outside of, and inside of the home. What exactly do you see your role as, since he seems to be doing the majority of it all?
******EDIT - Going from your other questions where you admit you deliberately put him down, call him names and tell him he is a bad Dad, (when you know that isn't true) just for some sick reasons of your own, I can see a divorce in your near future. You are selfish, totally self-centered, vicious with narcissistic tendencies. He and those children would be better off without you in their lives.
What a horrid example of womanhood - or Yahoo TROLL?
troll more then. do u jerk off on answers to your multiple pointless questions? or what is the point in asking them?
So what's your point? Why do you need so many favors from him every day? What's in it for you? Who finds this impressive? And if you do, the fact your husband has made it clear that he does not... suggests you are dissembling your own nest. From an outsider perspective, it sounds like you are not functioning as an adult woman that you would need his help and his favors so many times every day.
I understand your position of power. I do. But it could backfire on you. Often does.
comfortable==u is taking him for granted...and can even stop noticing the good that the other is doing—while focusing more and more on the petty failings of the other.Don’t let your wedding day be the last day you truly appreciate your spouse.its thanksgiving,try to be halfway Grateful... it is important to choose the right person, but it is also important to have a strategy to stay happy...
we began to incorporate an appreciation ritual into our daily lives. We’ve learned to say thank you throughout the day. And we end each day before going to bed by sitting together, with the computers off, and thanking each other once again for all the big and small things we’ve done for each other that day.