I think that silence isn't that big of a deal. Ignoring someone on the other hand and making them feel left out is cruel. Spiteful words can be hurtful yes. People should watch what they say to others.
When words are abusive, then they have that heart wrenching lasting negative affect, and that is unforgivable. When you get silence it is sometimes better then any verbal communication with an abuser. If you want contact but all you receive is silence (even when it is from an abuser) it may sometimes feel like another form of abuse. You are better off with silence from a verbal abuser. Strange as it may sound but silence can hurt you when your heart counts that person as someone you love. So you have to adjust your heart and in doing so it may very well break but you are better off in the long run.
I would imagine that when someone tells you spiteful words that there is still some sort of strength and energy inside of them that wants to save the relationship or friendship that lingers within those words. However, when a person strikes you with silence then that person has totally given up on you and it hurts more than if that person said anything at all.
Yes spiteful words can hurt feelings that is why is sometimes is better to keep them for yourself even if silence break you heart. But we can all say what we thinks in away that does not hurt others feelings
Spiteful words do hurt your feelings, but I guess that silence can break your heart because you never know what the actual answer is... and perhaps you start thinking of all the possible answers, which is worse...
Words can have a powerful effect, yes, but think of the silence that follows a heartfelt question such as "Do you love me?" or "Is he going to be all right, Doctor?" Then you know how it can break your heart.
When I stop communication with a person it means I have lost respect for that person for the moment, and have nothing else nice to say. Meaning everything else I say after that point would have been angry words. When you are around people with "hot blood" it tends to happen from time to time.
Personaly, if someone has something disgusting to say i think they should keep quiet. So silence doesn't bother me. It shows they respect themselves.
Take for example if you're in love with someone and they're breaking up with you, even if it meant that you were fighting or upset with one another, there is a small window of time when you would rather have the negative contact as opposed to them completely cutting you out of their life.
Being cut off from someone who you care about immensely is (in my opinion) more painful than hurtful words that they can say to you.
Also, being silent is a total action, a decision to be cut off and stop all lines of communication ... in this way you can compare it to the saying "actions speak louder than words."
I never thought of that, but it is true! I mean, if you are arguing with someone you love, things they say may hurt, but silence is torture! Probably because you don't know what they are thinking.
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when you need forgiveness from someone, and he just keep silent.
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I think that silence isn't that big of a deal. Ignoring someone on the other hand and making them feel left out is cruel. Spiteful words can be hurtful yes. People should watch what they say to others.
When words are abusive, then they have that heart wrenching lasting negative affect, and that is unforgivable. When you get silence it is sometimes better then any verbal communication with an abuser. If you want contact but all you receive is silence (even when it is from an abuser) it may sometimes feel like another form of abuse. You are better off with silence from a verbal abuser. Strange as it may sound but silence can hurt you when your heart counts that person as someone you love. So you have to adjust your heart and in doing so it may very well break but you are better off in the long run.
I would imagine that when someone tells you spiteful words that there is still some sort of strength and energy inside of them that wants to save the relationship or friendship that lingers within those words. However, when a person strikes you with silence then that person has totally given up on you and it hurts more than if that person said anything at all.
Yes spiteful words can hurt feelings that is why is sometimes is better to keep them for yourself even if silence break you heart. But we can all say what we thinks in away that does not hurt others feelings
Spiteful words do hurt your feelings, but I guess that silence can break your heart because you never know what the actual answer is... and perhaps you start thinking of all the possible answers, which is worse...
Words can have a powerful effect, yes, but think of the silence that follows a heartfelt question such as "Do you love me?" or "Is he going to be all right, Doctor?" Then you know how it can break your heart.
When I stop communication with a person it means I have lost respect for that person for the moment, and have nothing else nice to say. Meaning everything else I say after that point would have been angry words. When you are around people with "hot blood" it tends to happen from time to time.
Personaly, if someone has something disgusting to say i think they should keep quiet. So silence doesn't bother me. It shows they respect themselves.
Take for example if you're in love with someone and they're breaking up with you, even if it meant that you were fighting or upset with one another, there is a small window of time when you would rather have the negative contact as opposed to them completely cutting you out of their life.
Being cut off from someone who you care about immensely is (in my opinion) more painful than hurtful words that they can say to you.
Also, being silent is a total action, a decision to be cut off and stop all lines of communication ... in this way you can compare it to the saying "actions speak louder than words."
I never thought of that, but it is true! I mean, if you are arguing with someone you love, things they say may hurt, but silence is torture! Probably because you don't know what they are thinking.