I’m 16 and my parents had me when they were 17 and they put me up for adoption when I was a baby. And now I have great parents who actually wanted a child. And I say that because I don’t want to have sex or have a child until I’m married or ready so I don’t have to give my children up.
But to my question a have a girlfriend of 2 years and she’s a very sexual touchy feely type of girl. And I love that. She showed me a website. an “Adult” website and we watched a video. My First(never seen or have done anything sexually like that)Then my girlfriend I made out to it and was so turned on by it
I knew about sexual intercourse already. I’ve had a class about it and my dad and mom have talk to me about it. But I had never seen a girls ***** and all the other things. It been a couple of weeks now and I can’t get it out my mind I walk past any girl and I start think about it. Then I keep having these dreams and know every time I see my girlfriend she gets hotter and I want to make out with her. every time I close my eyes I think about her and all these other girls. I keep getting boners around every girl I’m around. I just want to go back to being normal.
I’m resenting my girlfriend for showing me that site because that’s what started this. And I just want to go back to being normal. I would talk to my parents but my mom is recovering from breast cancer and I don’t want to be selfish with my problems. So if anybody could chime in and help me figure this out that would help a ton. What should I do?
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Damn you've got a lot of pent up sexual frustration. Hah it's called masturbation hun. Try it. :]
Porn is designed to stimulate you, then, when you act on it, you get a chemical release in your brain--it can actually be addictive. The deal is, if you save all that release for a loving, committed relationship, you'll really have a healthy relationship and not something that has to live up to an impossible and false standard that has nothing to do with love.
The solution? Train your brain. Brainstorm about the kinds of things that would be productive in your life and when the thoughts that are interrupting the way you want to be come up, direct your thoughts. I'm not sure anyone can control their thoughts 100% of the time, so don't get down on yourself, just keep focusing on what you want.
The mind can only focus on one thing at a time, so you choose and you control it. You can choose a song that will get you in a good frame of mind, or something else that is meaningful to you.
The sad thing about a lot of girls is that they are searching for love and often times think that sex=love. Now you know for yourself that they are not the same thing.
Hang in there for love. Then, when the time is right, the physical, sexual element will really be an expression of love and it doesn't get better than that.
Aw love your normal, your a normal 16 year old boy. Almost every 16 year old that isn't gay thinks about girls in a sexual way. You really shouldn't be ashamed. I applaud you for wanting to wait to have sex :D. You should try masturbating, its only a suggestion. And its really no big deal.