I’m 16 and my parents had me when they were 17 and they put me up for adoption when I was a baby. And now I have great parents who actually wanted a child. And I say that because I don’t want to have sex or have a child until I’m married or ready so I don’t have to give my children up.
But to my question a have a girlfriend of 2 years and she’s a very sexual touchy feely type of girl. And I love that. She showed me a website. an “Adult” website and we watched a video. My First(never seen or have done anything sexually like that)Then my girlfriend I made out to it and was so turned on by it
I knew about sexual intercourse already. I’ve had a class about it and my dad and mom have talk to me about it. But I had never seen a girls ***** and all the other things. It been a couple of weeks now and I can’t get it out my mind I walk past any girl and I start think about it. Then I keep having these dreams and know every time I see my girlfriend she gets hotter and I want to make out with her. every time I close my eyes I think about her and all these other girls. I keep getting boners around every girl I’m around. I just want to go back to being normal.
I’m resenting my girlfriend for showing me that site because that’s what started this. And I just want to go back to being normal. I would talk to my parents but my mom is recovering from breast cancer and I don’t want to be selfish with my problems. So if anybody could chime in and help me figure this out that would help a ton. What should I do?
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Just wear a condom and enjoy!
i've got some shocking news for you.
YOU ARE A NORMAL TEENAGE BOY.
ALL YOUR FEELINGS ARE NOT ONLY NORMAL, BUT NATURAL.
DON'T FEAR YOUR NEW ASPIRATIONS TOWARDS GIRLS, EMBRACE IT.
I'm not saying run out and have sex or make babies with everything that has 2 **** and a hole. but there are steps to take to protect yourself.
Condoms are absolutely necessary.
and asking your girlfriend about her contraception needs is certainly what you need to do. Make sure she is at least on birth control, as she seems familiar in the way of baby making.
YOU ARE RIGHT TO WAIT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
VERY HONORABLE OF YOU.
AND MOST CERTAINLY DON'T HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU ARE READY.
have a talk with your girl. be open and honest about your past and why you feel the way you do.
Tell her you are not ready for that next step in a serious relationship. Tell her you are not ready for the responsibility of even possibly having children. Tell her you need to focus on other family issues. If you and her are meant to be-that is, if she really and truly loves you, she will understand and respect you for it.
I know I would.
You sound like a very commendable young man. and in the future you will be a prize for any lucky woman.
but moreover, your feelings are normal. and there's nothing wrong with you.
That is why porn is reserved for Adults. You aren't emotionally ready to handle it. In fact, some people never are, because the kind of sex portrayed in porn films isn't what sex is supposed to be about. It leaves out some very important aspects of sex: respect, intimacy, and yes, love.
It is too bad that your girlfriend took you down that path, but you willingly went right along with her, so don't blame it all on her.
If you want to be normal, lose the porn, and if that means losing your girlfriend with it, that's okay. There are a lot of nice girls out there who can one day be a lot more delightful than she will ever be, if you treat them right. Stick with the porn and someday you will end up with porn creep and not be able to perform with real women at all. Not to mention what it will do to a good marriage and family.
Not to say that you will never be disappointed or never get your heart broken. All of us adults have been through it, and you will, too. This is what I would tell my own kids. Let this be a lesson to you and stick to age appropriate entertainment from here on out. Good luck.
Sweetheart, they are called adult sites because they aren't for children. They aren't really healthy for adults either. Porn and the sort misconstrues your mind to think that things are a certain way when they really aren't. If your GF can't respect you for the person you were and respect that you want to wait until marriage, then she is not the one for you. Have you ever heard "Hell hath no fury like that of a woman scorned". At 16 or 17 or however old your GF is - if you aren't madly in love with her and don't plan to spend the rest of your life with herm then I would ditch her...she seems like she is trouble. Your parents adopted you because they love you and want you. No matter what, your mother will always love you. I would sit them down and say "I need to talk to you guys, I'm embarassed but I need guidance." it sounds corny, but they are your parents. Let them continue to support you to grow up to be the respectful man that you desire to be.
I think you need to sit down with your girlfriend and tell her how you feel about waiting for sex, you can make out with her, but dont let it get that far, you can have fun with her, you can take her out, but I wouldnt let any clothes come off in these because it will turn into somthing you cant control and cant stop, having a baby has changed my life, and its deffinatly for the better, but I wish I could be a teenager, I am only eighteen and have a two year old, thats two years, of growing up that I had to age six, you have no idea, youjust need to sit her down and tell her how you feel and try and keep yourself in control, stick to you morals, and if it gets really bad, try and talk to your parents about it, you could take a few minutes out of there lives and just say, look I need help, they want to help you and thats what they are there for, I promise,.
Heres my diagnosis ..............your a perfectly normal 16 year old guy ! Talk to your dad, they wont think your being selfish. He will explain it all to you - but in my experience of men, sex is all they ever think about anyway most of the time - so get used to it !! Seriously, you are just maturing and sex and the female body are all part of growing up. Just use protection if you decide you cant wait any longer with your gf.
Wow, sounds like you're a normal 16 year old boy to me!! Are you serious, or is this a joke? If it's not a joke my apologies... but this is the way guys are after puberty. It's all they can think about for at least a few years, so good luck changing it. It's your hormones and it's normal.
It may be hard but when you think that instantly remove that thought, after a while it'll get easier. Bare away from any thing that will make you"**" it might even mean not making out, and do not ever go back to any of those sites or watch anything like that. i hope i helped. (:
wow, you are seeing the evil in pornography. Stay away from it. Unfortunately, your eyes have been opened now. Resist the temptation!
You are a normal hot blooded male sweetheart, enjoy while it lasts.
You gotta stop thinking about this about every other girl rather fantasise only about your girl , then you will have control