I have so much in life that I´m truly grateful for... I´m teaching EFL in Mexico, and I really love it. I try to get on with my life and appreciate what I do have, but sometimes things I can´t change really bug me.
I mean no offense to anyone, but I absolutely can´t stand being American!! It seems like American women are just NOT considered undesirable. (www.nomarriage.com)
It´s easy to say that sites like that are full of crap but are American women really considered desirable?
I would like to have a boyfriend, but being American makes me feel ugly and undesirable. I mean no offense to anyone, but I´m embarrassed about being an American woman. I feel like it makes me undesirable in the eyes of men, Mexican or foreign. i feel like we´re looked upon as undesirable... mexican guys prefer Mexican girls, even American guys prefer non-American girls. It´s ironic, USA is called the land of opportunity but being an American closes so many doors!
I would give absolutely anything to be some other nationality. I look at Mexican girls and the opportunities they can have and my heart hurts with envy. I feel like an absolute monster for saying this, but one of my friends has an amazing husband. I would NEVER get involved with some married guy or hurt my friend, because I have a conscience. But sometimes I feel jealous... she would probably hate me if she knew how I felt. I have thoughts like, why did she have to snatch him up? (they met before I knew either of them.) I really have strong feelings for him and I can´t tell ANYONE. He´s everything I dared to dream of, handsome, latino, smart, loving, kind, professional. Everything i can´t have because I was born in the wrong country. I´ll never feel this way about anyone else.
I don´t see the USA as a perfect country without problems and I don´t see the other countries of the world as horrible places. The USA is known as the land of opportunity but there are severe hardships in every country and a lot of things about USA bother me. Í don´t think the USA is necessarily the best country to live in. There are certain advantages to being here, but other countries have their strong points too. No one will ever look upon an American woman as being desirable, sexy or beautiful.
I feel like a selfish asshole, because I have so many great opportunities in my life and I STILL feel sorry for myself.
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Sounds as though you aren't so down on being American as you are low on self esteem. No matter where you are from, or who you are, people, men, will find you attractive as long as you yourself believe you are. You more than likely like your friends husband because you see how well he treats her, and want that for yourself. I have no idea what made you think that other countries or even USA men don't look upon American women as being desirable, sexy or beautiful. If that were true, then all men in the US would have married a women from another country, and I am pretty sure that is not that case. In order to be looked at as sexy or beautiful, you have to feel you are, know you are. You need self esteem, and the only way to get it is to tell yourself that what your thinking is silly and makes no sense. Go out to new places, meet new people. Before you know it, you may meet the man of your dreams.
Do something you'll be able to do as consistent with your capability , no person says do not do whatever . however even after making an attempt it does not difference manner then receive what ever its comes . in the event you cant get pizza then opt for burger . :)