How do I tell my fiAncé that I don't want to get married....ever?
Me and my fiancé have been engaged for 1year and it has been the best ... But I really don't want to get married at all. I've asked many older relatives and friends and they say that marriage these days is damn near guaranteed for couples under 25 and not only that I think that marriage would only complicate things between the both of us due to finances and things of that nature. As much as she wants to get married, it would break her heart for me to tell her marriage is outt of the question. What should I do?? Btw I'm 23 and she's 22.....
Update:Ok maybe I should have said ever but not in the near future
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You need to tell her the truth.
If marriage means that much to her, she deserves to know now in case she decides she'd rather be with someone that does want to get married.
Way too young. Be mature. Let her know you are not looking to get married until you are at least 25. You want to pay off bills do other things before saying I Do for the rest of your life. She probably loves you but she is more in love with the thought of a wedding than a marriage. Most young girls are. Don't marry her out of guilt. Be nice and tell her you have to talk. Tell her that you love her and that getting married is not something you really want to do until much later. You proposed out of pressure. You love her but you do not want to enter into a marriage yet.
Well lets see if you lead her on for the next couple of years maybe have a few kids out of wedlock, then tell her maybe she will appreciate it. Seriously you want us to explain what you already know be a man and just tell her the truth. It would probably be a good idea if you stop calling her your FIANCE that is very misleading considering you don't want marriage EVER
Just tell her so she can either find someone who does want to marry her (if she indeed does want a husband) or let her decide if she wants to continue with you knowing that there is no future. Do you want to be with her for the rest of your life and just not want to actually get married because I got news for you, you might have the same problems anyway. Unless you plan on jumping from girl to girl so you never have this problem.
well you can keep your finances seperate and have a joint account you add money into evry month to fund your household. that way you have your own money a divorce would be clean. i think you haave committment issues and need to seek counseling and maybe wait another yr or 2. there is no time limit on engagement. just dont do it before you are ready
If you don't tell her now, you're doing something very wrong. If you don't share her values, you aren't the right guy for her, and she deserves to know that. You are shortchanging both of you by letting her think you're going to marry her.
"i'm sorry that i propose to you and led you to believe that i wanted marriage. i know that was wrong. and i know that i was a coward for doing it. but from now on i'm going to upfront and honest with you.......i am never getting married. ever. i love you and want to be with you, but i can never promise you marriage. i would love to continue this relationship, but i will understand and not pressure you if you want to end it. i want you to be happy so if marriage is what you want, i'm letting go. and i wont call you and make it harder. it's going to hurt me too but i love you enough to let you go."
and any decision she makes, deal with it. if she wants marriage, YOU leave HER. dont make her wait and wait on you to change your mind. make it easy for her...
you need to be honest and you need to give HER a choice about HER life, with ALL information out on the table.
Honesty is the best policy
Floyd, let her go so she can find a real man.
You say "I don't want to get married...ever."