I have a crush on this guy in my martial arts club. We’ve never spoken or hung out outside the club. We don’t even have each other’s numbers and we’re not on the same social networking sites. So because of that, we’re not really friends per se. However, we get on really well and hang out with his brother and this girl in this club.

I really really long to ask him out, but I’m worried that he’ll say no. And if he says no, it means he’ll probably stop talking to me and I’ll be very sad. :( Plus, I don’t know whether his brother will stop talking to me too because of that. Which means I’ll probably lose my ‘friendship’ (or maybe ‘good acquaintances’) with him too.

So I really don’t want to risk it, but I hate that I haven’t plucked up the courage to ask him out yet and I feel so sad that we’re not dating yet. :(

What should I do? I mean like, I know you might say, ‘If you don’t ask him out you’ll never know what would’ve happened’, but that’s what I always think and it never brings up my courage more. :( So please suggest something else. Thanks! (I'm 17 by the way and I've never dated before, if that makes any difference).