You are obviously the wrong friend for your married girlfriend to speak to.

Your little warped statement that once you are married you are "ONE" is a bunch of hogwash in that people are INDIVIDUALS and as such will never be "ONE".

People need to have their own identity and pursue their own interests. You cannot possibly expect married people to be joined at the hip because you will rarely find two people who want to do the exact same thing at the exact same time, day in and day out. That is just entirely unreasonable and quite frankly, impossible.

You are totally clueless and have zero idea about what you are talking about. Please copy this silly "question" and keep it handy because one day you are going to read it and turn red with embarrassment when you realize how wrong you really are.

Married people do not suddenly become Siamese twins where they do EVERYTHING together. In order for couples to have a healthy relationship, they follow their need to pursue their interests while always maintaining a healthy relationship with their spouse while they do things together to enjoy the wonderful opportunities that life has to offer.

Your sense of marriage is a bit warped or at least not of a typical western culture. Maybe somewhere else in the world where wives are suppressed and disallowed to lead an independent lifestyle is where she is not permitted to do anything without her husband by her side.

Just because one gets married does not mean they give up their interests or need for down time or being with their friends. Marriage is about sharing your life, enhancing one another but do not parent or smother.

Yes, everyone needs "me time."

I am an introspective introvert, which means I need time by myself on a regular basis. I love my husband to death, but I cannot spend all of my time with any one person, even him. He needs time with his own thoughts, as well. When we bought our current house and the previous one we purposefully chose a house that will allow each of us to go somewhere away from the other when we feel the need. There's an office and a workshop and a small greenhouse where either one of us can retreat to--and we do.

When two people marry they become a partnership, but they are definitely still two distinct and separate people, each with their own needs. The art of marriage is to build a strong partnership while respecting each person's individuality.

Humans require "alone time" in most cases because never having that can cause serious emotional and even psychiatric problems. It is said that "square footage is the secret to a happy marriage" and in many cases this is true. You just can't fathom this because you apparently have plenty of time by yourself to stay centered and focused.

spending quality time apart makes my marriage stronger..we compromise, we learn from each other—there is still an essential self that we bring to the marriage, and it doesn't—and shouldn't—change much.Both my wife and I are introverted, so we need to spend quiet alone time to recharge ourselves

Finding alone time doesn't mean you need to shut out your partner and go on a silent retreat in the woods for two weeks.

Compromise on your expectations and make sure your partner's needs are also being met. Check in to make sure his/her needs are being met, before you spend time focusing on you.

When two people are absolutely clear about their intentions, there is less of a gray area, which minimizes misinterpretation ( one of the greatest pitfalls of dating and relationships!).Having an open, honest dialogue with your partner about well, everything, will naturally give the relationship space so that each of you can take care of your individual needs and communicate effectively.

When you take care of yourself, you can clearly address the root cause of problems in a relationship, rather than interpreting them through your own sensitivities or biases.

Plus, by spending quality time alone, it will make the time you are together that much more special.

I am a single male, and I have a lot of me time. No, I am not married, but if I was then it would be us time. If she really wanted to have me time then she would have stayed single, and then she would have all the me time she wants.

Ummm.....I don't see anything wrong with her having some me time. I think he should give her some space. Going out to see a movie alone seems like a good idea. If she can go, and wants to go then I think she should go.

"but once you get married you are all one. " Hmm sorry but no. You are still an individual, even when married. You are not joined by the hip when you are married.

The healthiest marriages I know are the ones where both enjoy doing things together, alone and with other friends without their spouses.

Marriage doesn't disappear the needs of enjoying a time of your own. That's unrealistic.

She's right. People who are married are still people. Each needs to have their own interests and space, otherwise there's a risk of becoming too codependent. Having "me time" is not only normal, it's a sign of a healthy relationship.

"Once you are married you are all one." - Where the heck did you hear that c***, from the back of a cereal box? When you get married then you will understand but even married couples need some alone time, or time with their friends, or whatever.

To put it bluntly, you are completely wrong, and she is completely right, on this one.