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HPV is just warts. they can be treated. The great majority of people out there have been exposed to it or have it. There are some issue with HPV. They are:

1. increased risk of cancer. you and her should both be thoroughly tested for the HPV to see exactly which types you have. Some of the strains cause cancers and you need to know how to deal with those possibilities, and testing and advice from a doctor will help.

2. HPV creates a higher risk for other types of STD's, so if either of you is involved with other relationships, it will significantly increase that risk.

3. If you and her are married and involved in a monogamous and committed relationship, the risk in #2 becomes almost nonexistent.

4. If you and her have been having sex, you are already exposed any way, so deal with it. HPV is passed by direct skin to skin contact, so just rubbing and petting can pass it too. It's not just having sex.

5. If you don't marry her, then you probably will date someone else and the odds are extremely high this will be an issue in the future anyway.

Toby Kieth says it best in one of his songs "It's not the one you can live with .... It's the one you can't live without ..." .

Best of luck and I hope this helps.

I agree with monocyte. If you are judging her by her hpv and warts, that's not love. Also, I think it's important that you educate yourself on HPV and warts. So many people are uneducated about it. HPV is a virus that lives under the surface of your skin, so it is contracted through genital skin contact, not through bodily fluids. HPV is what causes warts. There's different strains of HPV- some cause cervical cancer and others cause warts. You need to understand that warts are not permanent. They can be treated by freezing them off with liquid nitrogen or with a topical cream. HPV is the most common std that exists. About 80% of all people who are sexually active contract HPV at some point in their life, but not everyone knows they have it because some never get any symptoms. You can get lab work done to determine if you have it or not. HPV is like having a cold- if you have a strong immune system, your body can fight it off. So in this case, your fiance may not ever get warts again in the future. Just have her get them removed and you guys will be fine. It's possible for them to come back but often times they may not. It's all about your immune system which is why it's important to minimize your stress, get plenty of rest, and eat a healthy diet.

You need to be supportive of your fiance instead of looking at her as if she's some disgusting disease. I know exactly how that feels and it hurts. Anyone can get HPV/warts (even if you wear a condom since you can contract it from the skin that the condom doesn't cover).

Its not something you should freak out about. Its like so not a big deal to you. I have HPV and warts, and I told my boyfriend and he said he loved me no matter what. Men hardly ever contract it either. Its possible. But just be safe and support her if you really love her.

Are you sure you love her as much as you think? Your question tells a different story. If it were me and I was told this and I loved the woman I would hold her very close and gently and in no uncertain terms ensure her that I love ALL of her. Can you do that? If not I doubt that you love her enough for a lasting relationship. One thing people forget is that no one ever goes out and says I think I will get an STD tonight.