My FH and I decided to do a bridal party with 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen, and that we would before friends include our siblings in the bridal party. So 3 bridesmaids are my SIL who is my MOH, my sister and HIS sister. Leaving me with only 2 spots to fill in with friends. That in itself isn’t upsetting. Where I am having problems is I have 4 girls who I have been close to since Jr. High age and I can only actually have 2 in the official wedding party.
I have spent the last 3 months agonizing over this decisions because I don’t favor one more than the other and decided on which 2 would be bridesmaids. They both live in the state where I get married and wouldn’t feel a financial burden by a wedding (Though I am keeping things as low cost as Possible)
The other 2 girls live out of state, and one of them isn’t working. I intend on asking them to do the readings at our wedding. That way they are involved but don’t have to worry about traveling if they can’t. But the problem is I am worried about hurt feelings from the 2 girls who I can’t ask to be in the actual wedding party.
How do I prevent hurt feelings?
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Your plan sounds good.
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about hurt feelings. For one, these girls are adults, they can handle not making the cut. Second, they may not even want to make the cut, many people prefer to watch the show than to be in it. There can be a lot of hassle and expense with being in the wedding party, and they might just be relieved not to be picked.
I don't see the problem. You picked the 2 instate friends over the other 2 because you may have random requests for assistance on things, and this was the logical way to break it out. Very few people could accommodate all 4 close friends in a bridal party, what with sibs and all, and they have to see this.
Ever seen the movie 27 Dresses? A lot of women would prefer to attend a wedding and just watch than to actually be in it. I am getting married next March and I almost feel bad for my bridesmaids because I am constantly going to them with all of these questions and whenever I'm stressed, their who I turn to. It isn't easy to be a bridesmaid.... don't feel bad, their probably fine with it.
It is not a problem. They can be guest. It shouldn't hurt there feelings as long as they are involved or at least invited. Good luck.