why not commit????????¿????
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and haven't progressed any as far as moving in together or even engaged.! Its frustrating BC he says he wants to marry me but I'm not trying to wait until. I'm 30! Weve been together the longest out of our friends and they are married and have a kid. I know i seem impatient but im ready to start my life with him im just nervous he secreatly feels differently.What should I do. Back off and let it flow.?
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I would just go with the flow. My cousin was with her husband 15 years before they got married. I'm sure they would have married sooner except they had to wait until they were 18 & graduated. They didn't even move in together until after the wedding. ^_^
If you feel you've found the person you want to spend your life with, then don't scare him away too quickly. You haven't stated your age so I'm guessing you're both young, having kids and getting married young is a really scary idea for a lot of men, so try to see his point of view. However, if he is the right guy but has different plans in life to you, you might have to move on. Some people just want different things out of life. But he has said he wants to marry you, perhaps he is waiting until he feels financially secure etc with his life before taking the next step. Be supportive to him and show him how much of a good wife you would make :) Make him fall in love with you all over again and then perhaps he'll think it over more seriously :) Good luck!
Without knowing you or him, it's difficult to say what you "should" do.
Since you have to deal with all of the consequences of your decisions, no one else can tell you what moral choice to make (you made it a morality issue by invoking "should").
neither..
understand him and understand your need..
find another guy..
and see how he reacts..
things will get sorted out..