I have a step-daughter (15) who’s in High School this year & I don’t know what to make of this… My S.D. came to me confidence about a boy at school that was bugging her, he was making rude comments and would hit her w/ a pencil, call her a ho. She was scared to death about her dad finding out so she told me (scared of being a nark). I told her dad about it and we agreed that he would stay out of it. I went to the school and they took care of it & said if he did it again, he would be expelled. Well, dad was taking to their mom telling her what was going on and she told my husband that she’s on the phone with this boy all the time lately, they are BFF. But this boy that did this to her is dating one of my S.D. best friends. My S.D. does have a boyfriend & I have told her it’s not proper to be going out with boy and flirting/talking with another. I don’t understand this?? What would you make of it? How should I approach her about this next time she comes over? I feel like she took advantage of me and this situation.
Update:This boy actually left a welt on her and then slapped her in the face after doing a little dance and called her a ho. I felt bad for her and she was balling when she told me. She told me that she felt embarrassed and degraded, because he did this to her and it was in front of some classmates. I come to find out later that she’s been talking to this boy all along! She told me she didn’t know why he was doing it or that he had a reason to mad at her…he was just doing it! I feel taken advantage of because I stood up for her and now I’m thinking everything’s she’s told me is a lie.
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r u sure shes flirting, maybe they r friends? umm but she did trick u. Honestly, she was trying to make a fool of u, srry. Next time she comes, ask, "so, is this boy still picking on u?" at first act like u dont know all that new info, so that she will sit & talk with u & b calm. Then, when u bring it up, dont get angry (cuz then she'll wanna fight back), talk with a calm voice like u r asking a normal question, & she will feel ashamed. Good luck, & i hope i interpretted ur Q correctly, it was kinda confusing.
She needs to toughen up....that sounds harsh, but its true. she is never going to get along in the real world if she tells her mom when someone calls her a "ho" (unless she really is one and its actually offensive). thats just how teenage guys are
Sorry, but I dind it hard to follow what you wrote.
But, I think you should talk to her, and ask her to explain the discrepancies.
If it looks like she's been playing you, explain to her how she's lost your trust.
You were happy to help her, but not if she's not telling you everything.
She needs to know (assuming she can't explain away the discrepencies) that there are consequences to playing someone who had wanted to help.
that boy likes your step daughter, and your step daughter should be the one to solve this problem.