I can't say there would be one trait that I'd accept. It's all a balance. If he's wonderful in most ways, I'd be willing to accept some lesser traits as part of the mix. Also, when measuring negative traits, there are certainly some that are minor and easily tolerated, and those that are deal breakers. And even in each of those traits, there are lesser and greater extremes. For example, all things being equal, I would easily tolerate a man being a bit careless and sloppy. However, I'd have trouble with someone who is overtly sloppy or lacked general personal hygiene.
Good q. A lot of things that used to piss me off in people don't anymore. I don't mind if someone is shy, needs to be helped with things, doesn't dress perfectly...etc etc. They don't have to be a perfect person. They are "allowed" to overreact to things, see their friends, etc. I wouldn't want to control someone, nor would I want to change who they are. Basically they can be themselves. The only things I would care about are abuse, drugs and other serious problems. As long as there's mutual respect I believe other things would fall into place. Money issues, taking care of oneself, family, and so on.
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I can't say there would be one trait that I'd accept. It's all a balance. If he's wonderful in most ways, I'd be willing to accept some lesser traits as part of the mix. Also, when measuring negative traits, there are certainly some that are minor and easily tolerated, and those that are deal breakers. And even in each of those traits, there are lesser and greater extremes. For example, all things being equal, I would easily tolerate a man being a bit careless and sloppy. However, I'd have trouble with someone who is overtly sloppy or lacked general personal hygiene.
Good q. A lot of things that used to piss me off in people don't anymore. I don't mind if someone is shy, needs to be helped with things, doesn't dress perfectly...etc etc. They don't have to be a perfect person. They are "allowed" to overreact to things, see their friends, etc. I wouldn't want to control someone, nor would I want to change who they are. Basically they can be themselves. The only things I would care about are abuse, drugs and other serious problems. As long as there's mutual respect I believe other things would fall into place. Money issues, taking care of oneself, family, and so on.
You compromise when you marry, he might be stubborn about things you feel strongly about but
I would never consider marrying a guy that didn't share the same faith I did, nor want children.
violent behavior toward myself and all others. thats fine by me