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I don't like the idea but I'm an atheist so I don't like the idea of being married in any religious building or or having any kind of religious ceremony.

I am a religious person. I believe marriage is a sacred vow two people make to each other and to God. Thus I’m very pro-church weddings.

However I’m also a modern woman. I had to balance my religious beliefs with the restrictions that come with marrying in a house of worship. For example, restrictions on clothing. In my church, exposed shoulders are forbidden. I had to keep this in mind when falling in love with bridal and bridesmaid gowns. My church also has a list of approved vendors. Meaning I had to pick a caterer and photographer from a list. The good news: these were people I could trust because they had proven respectful and honest in the past. They were also vendors who knew how to behave in a church (you’d be amazed at how many photographers have no idea what is appropriate in church!).

Most churches have a wedding coordinator who is a great resource for ideas and knows what works and doesn’t work at that particular house of worship. These are usually maternal little old ladies who have seen a TON of weddings in their day.

If you are a free spirit, creative and want to march to the beat of your own drummer, a church wedding is not likely to be a good fit.

If you are traditional and religious, a church wedding is a great option.

Good:

If you're religious, then you get married under whatever God you believe in.

Usually, churches tend to be pretty

Bad:

Long, boring (especially Catholic weddings)

Lots of little things that build up to being able to get married.

Super formal

Usually you have to have the Reception at a different location, so you end up spending more money on ANOTHER place for your event.

Opinion:

I'd rather rent out a hall or a boat, save some money, get a justice of the peace, have a short wedding and spend more money on the Reception (food and drinks).

im kind of torn on the issue.

if you are getting married in the church you went to as a kid, or the church you attend now, fine, lovely wonderful. absolutely nothing wrong with it.

but here is where my issue is. i am not religious. in fact, i am probably one of the least religious people you will ever meet. i dont care if anyone else is religious, go ahead, do your thing. i just am not religious. never was, dont plan on it. however, i LOVE the architechture of churches. especially since i have been to europe and gotten to see some of the huge gothic style ones, and baroque ones and all that. the amount of detail put into them is just breathtaking to me. so i would like to get married in a church, particularly a big fancy gothic one because the backdrop is so lovely and i appreciate the time and effort that went into creating it. however, i would feel awkward about it because odds are i would have to have some sort of religious ceremony to have my wedding there.

so i dont know. i appreicate the beauty that is in churches, but i am not religious so it would be a little awkward depending on what the church required to get married there.

I wouldn't do it if your not religious. Churches shouldn't be used for non spiritual reasons. However if you are religious then you should research what your beliefs are. My church requires you to be married in a church if you want your marriage to be considered "in gods eyes". However, there are other religions where the spiritual leader will marry you in a location of your choice. Once again I would say just do your research, and decided what fits you and your soon to be spouse best. Good Luck

I think if you have a church that you go to, or grew up in (the church has a significant meaning to the bride or groom) then it would be a good idea to get married in a church. If not then I really don't see the point. Why would you get married in a church just because it looked pretty? Seems silly to me. Just my 0.02.

I think getting married in a church is good if that is what you want to do but that is not for everyone. I am getting married in a different venue other than a church because while I may be a Christian I do not believe that I have to get married in a church to prove it. To me it is all about what you believe. There are atheists that get married and obviously they would not want to get married in a church. Its just what you believe.

If you're religious and want to get married in a church, it's good. If you're non-religious and don't want to have anything to do with a church, it's bad. I'm not religious and would never consider getting married in a church, but to each their own.

I love church weddings but that is my opinion and my background. You have to search yourself and your belief system and values. It does not mean that the marriage is less than if you do not get married in a church or not. The vows are the same either way. It is only a preference of the desire location for some and others love their meaning behind it.

If you're religious and want a church wedding, go for it. If you're not religious or don't want a church wedding, there are hundreds of other options.

Basically, no one should feel obligated to have a church wedding unless it would be meaningful for them.

Since I am a Christian, the whole idea of the sacredness of a church is the biggest pro to me.