I am in total love with my boyfriend, even though he cheats on me! When I'm with him, he's always talking about how much he loves me, and how important I am to him, but when I'm not with him, he's with other girls! I caught him at this club with this other girl and he was talking to her and explaining how he likes being single, but would like a girlfriend. He said he was SINGLE! I got so mad at him, and he did what he always does: He cries a little, puts himself down saying how he's stupid and he messes up, and begs for my forgiveness. I always forgive him. One of my best friends was helping us sort out our differences and being a best friend. She told me he had many girlfriends and was breaking up with them one-by-one to be with me. Sounds nice and all, until I found my best friend and boyfriend in bed together! I got so mad, but he did the things he always does. I know for a fact they're still together, but I pretend I don't.
I don't know what to do! I love him so much, but he makes me cry all the time (not from being mean)! I'm a nervous breakdown; crying at random, suddenly sobbing, etc., even in my classes! I've been sent to the social worker several times. He knows I'm upset and cuddles me, calming me, then I find him with my best friend or other girls! He's always saying he screws up, and that I'm his number 1 and always will be, but I don't get it!
Please help!
Update:He always puts himself down, then cheats again! I don't get it!
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I'm scanning this and I'm seeing "cheat", "girlfriends", "again", "in bed together", "crybaby"--- WHOOPS, I mean "cries", and a lot of other bullshittre.
Dump his sorry rear.
Also, wrong section.
What do you do? Heed the wise words of Dan Savage, advice columnist:
DUMP THE MOTHERFVCKER, ALREADY!
Get your head out of the fuzzy pink "I am in TOTAL LOVE with him" cloud, take a look at all the stuff you just typed, and either decide to STOP PLAYING THIS STUPID GAME or accept that you love the soap-opera thrill of being the Good Girl trying to Save The Bad Boy. Trouble is, the script he's acting out is "Cool Playa Who Suckers All the Dumb Chicks."
You're part of the problem because you're accepting his bad behavior. You have only two choices -- accept it or dump him, because he ain't gonna change.
well sorry to say but it's obvious he does not care he's just playing you, you need to dump him and just relax knowing it wont be the end of the world, you'd be happier with some other guy who can actually treat you right and maybe even more in love. and it's obvious that their are to many problems you need to realize he's not the only guy out their maybe he cares he just cant control him self so you need to find some one who does . Don't worry sweetie trust me you be fine you just have to let go so theirs no more pain for the both of you.
You BREAK UP WITH HIM. If your not happy, your not in love. You love him, sure, but your not "in love" with him. There is NO excuse for what he's doing, and you shouldn't have forgiven him so many times. Now he thinks he can get away with anything. And your "best friend" isn't worth your time either. Just get out now before it gets worse.
they both sound like total *****, move on... this really sucks for you, I hope you can find people who are actually worthy of your trust and friendship.