I see lot of questions about cheating, seems like an issue these days that happens a lot and destroys a lot of relationships. And am sick and tired of seeing ppl get hurt. Since i am never going to be in the cheaters shoes, i am never going to know why and what they think when they do it. So my question is to you cheaters out there, when you are cheating, what do you think about right at that moment? Do you not think about your wife/girl friend? does she cross your mind AT ALL? Do you think abou what she would say once she found out? How can you easily do it w.o being sad that you are hurting the love of your life and breaking her heart? Is it that important that you are willing to throw away everything you have built? Every relationship has its bumps, ups and downs, but is that an enough excuse to cheat? I dont think so. So, explain to me and maybe us, non-cheaters, who stand no matter what, will learn something.
This goes the same for cheating women!
Update:nope, never been cheated on.
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I think there are two sides in this issue.
1) There are people that were born players. This might be weird, but some people have no power of commitment and no understanding of relationship. They just want to have fun and do not care about what they will lose in the long run. All they care is the enjoyment of the moment.
2) Another case is that people end up in a relationship where everything fades away as far as love and passion and they look for a escape for this situation and they end up cheating. I don't want to get into more details, but I am willing to open this subject a little more if anyone is interested!!
I am not a cheater now, I have been in a relationship with my husband for going on six years, but when I was younger, late teens, I cheated a lot. I cheated because I didn't really care about the person I was with. Yes, I thought about them before, during, and after, but the thing was I didn't care. Now to be with someone you do "care" about, or "love", I do not know how someone can do that, it really doesn't make sense to me. Like I said I was in my late teens when I cheated and didn't really want to be tied down in a relationship at all. Sorry I can't help further than that.
Never say never hun. If you get caught up in the wrong moment at the wrong time you can compromise even your strongest morals.
No excuse is a good enough one to justify cheating but there are many reasons that people do cheat and it's not always because they want to purposely hurt their spouse or bf/gf.
I don't think it's easily done when you are in a commitment, I think it's a string of events and situations that end up being the deciding factor of when the cheating happens.
Now there are people who are just slimeballs who are using others for sexual gratification, they just don't care about themselves or anyone else for that matter.
My friends a cheater and she once told me when i asked about it, that she loves being in relationships but she needs more thrills as well and so she cheats to get those thrills.
To this day i just do not understand it.
I HATE CHEATERS! I feel so very blessed to have married the man I have. I was cheated on way too much in the past. I would never ever ever cheat!
So is this a question or just a rant about someone cheating on you?
I wonder this about cheaters too. How can they do it?