My fiancé got a car from his parents when he was in college. Technically it was their car because they were paying for it, so their rule was no one was allowed to drive it except for him. I totally understood that in college because it was theirs. Well his parents gave it to him as a wedding gift basically saying he could keep it instead of giving it back after college. We’re living together now, out of college for over a year, and he still won’t let me drive it. I’d understand if it was still theirs but it’s not. He says the reason he doesn’t let me drive it is because it was his parents rule when we were in college. It’s kinda frustrating that he won’t let me drive it because since he gets to keep it now and we’re getting married, we kinda think of it as OUR car now. It’s not like I wanna drive it all the time everywhere, but it’d be nice to take it to the grocery store every once in a while instead of dragging him along just to drive me. Should I respect that and accept that he won’t let me drive it or should I have a talk with him and say I think I should be allowed to drive it?
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Take it as a sign that he's got problems when it comes to sharing and even bigger problems when it comes to mommy and daddy issues. You might give it some more thought before marrying this guy. Life won't be a bowl of cherries with him.
Your fiancé is behaving like a child and his parents are treating him as one. He is a grown man and they have given him the car. It is not their car - it is his car. I get that they didn't want a bunch of drunken frat boys driving the car around for beer runs but you are his fiancé. If he is grown up enough to get married, he is grown up enough to decide who is responsible enough to use his car.
That being said, maybe he is using this as an excuse. Maybe HE doesn't want you to drive his car. Are you a bad driver? Is it possible that you wouldn't be as careful with his new car as he would like you to be? Guys are fussy with their cars, particularly when it's a brand new one. He could be concerned that you won't park it carefully enough (far away from other cars) or that you'll drive it through a puddle or something. I know it sounds stupid but these are things guys care about. Have a talk with him and find out what is really going on.
Sounds like mommy and daddy are still more important than his future wife. That's a terrible red flag, I hate to break it to you. Are you sure you two are old enough and mature enough to get married? Doesn't sound like he is.
well your not married yet are you - did he not tell you that he was going to jilt you at the alter in front of everyone.
anyway everyone knows that women are rubbish drivers - they are too easily distracted and are always texting on their mobile phone instead of looking at the road
Save up and get your own car. Apparently your fellow doesn't come with a car for you to use.