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There could be several things going on here:

1) they’re in an open relationship. They live together still after 2 years of you guys being together, he hasn’t hidden you away because you’ve met his mother and you’ve been able to see him on holidays. It suggests to me that he could potentially have you as his ‘second girlfriend’ that his wife knows about and doesn’t mind.

2) she knows about you, she doesn’t care or mind and may have a partner if her own. After two years if she didn’t know by now then she must be very naive. What’s weird to me in this situation is that they still live together after 2 years of you guys being together. I’d of thought they’d of gone their separate ways in terms of their living situation by now, it’s been a long time.

3) he’s actually with her and cheating on her with you. It would explain why they’re still living together. But this seems the least likely to me because 2 years is a long time to hide someone and he’s introduced you to his mother as his girlfriend, unless his mum is in on it or is somehow incapacitated to where she cannot tell his wife about you or has a memory illness then I think she of found out by now.

What my personal opinion is that they’re technically not ‘separated’ because he lives with his wife and is not yet divorced. I find that strange, why has he not moved out or she moved out, so they can both properly move on with their lives. It sounds like to me that they’re both keeping the option open of being together otherwise they’d of got a divorce in motion and live separately. I can understand having a relationship with someone even though you’re still married because a family member of mine has separated from his wife and they’re both in new relationships and they don’t live together anymore but they have to wait 2 years before they can divorce. But what I don’t understand is why they’re still living together, that would plant major doubts in my head and if I were you I’d be wondering what exactly is going on between them. If your still living with someone you used to be in love with, I bet they have happy times in that house and I can imagine them having sexual relations when they have good times together because the memories are there and the familiarity.

I feel that after 2 years if he really wanted to pursue a serious relationship with you he would of really left his wife and either moved in with you or got a place of his own, so you guys could progress in your relationship.

Who are you and what's your name? Nobody knows who the hell you are

Separated but living with his wife...lol! What an oxymoron...

maybe the wife knows, maybe not - and why does it actually matter what she knows or doesn't know. the bottom line is that you are ONLY this guy's side piece - otherwise, he wouldn't be living with his wife.

Chances are the wife knows but doesn't care or doesn't care to admit it to herself. For whatever reason (likely financial) they're still together so one or both can continue to enjoy the benefits of marriage.

FYI, your 'boyfriend' isn't separated if he's still living with his wife. It's more of an open relationship (if she really is aware of his behavior).

It would take a super naive woman not to figure out she was being cheated on, if he's lying to you (and her). However, some people have been cheated on for years and claim they never knew it. A better question would be why would any man or woman be in a relationship with a married person for years? If his wife does know, the marriage should've ended and them parted ways a year or more ago. If the wife doesn't know, then you've spent 2 yrs with someone who clearly has low (or no) morals and for whom lying isn't a problem. Don't expect more from him than he's given to his wife.

what comes around goes around

Maybe she doesn't care as long as she gets enough money to get by on. Who's to say she doesn't have her a male companion 2?

If they're legally separated but just sharing a home for reasons of economy his wife might know all about you. She might even have her own relationship going on on the side. But after two years it's getting to be time to tell him he needs to finalize the divorce and start planning his wedding to you...or it's over.

He's not separated. To be separated is "to live separately and apart".. He and his wife have just opened up the marriage. If he's spending holidays with you and is openly introducing you as his gf, trust me, his wife knows.

But the bottom line is that you'll never be more to him than you are right now.. if he wanted more, he'd have actually left his wife.

She knows about you, shes waiting for the divoce to open up about you and take her husband oh I mean your cheating POS boyfriend to the cleaners. You are dating an immature BOY, Tell him its over until he gets his life in order.