I am devastated. I just learned that my fiancé of one month was "seeing " another girl the whole time we were dating. We are both Christian and dated for a year before he proposed to me. We had a pretty squeaky clean dating period ( no sex). Granted, sometimes we got carried away but we never went too far.
But I just learned that he was cheating the whole time with another girl,almost living like a couple together ( she has her own place) and they did everything!!! He only called everything off with her just 2 weeks before proposing to me. I knew he had many girlfriends before but I thought he had changed his ways. I only found out coz the other girl came forward and confessed everything.
And now he s telling me it didn t mean anything...that he proposed to me and called it quit with the other girl before doing so...that he wouldn t propose if he didn t really love me. I m beyond hurt and in disbelief. I had absolutely no clue that he had another life the whole time we were together. He had never even mentioned her! While she knew all about me.
We had a beautiful engagement party just of last month. What an embarrassment to family and friends! I just wanna die. Is this engagement worth saving?!?
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NO... If he was good enough to KEEP YOU BLIND all this time, he'll do it again, when the next temptation opens her legs. Plus keep in mind, if he hasn't gotten your virginity, will you be enough for him when he experiences your lack of sexual knowledge in pleasing a man or sexual participation?
You were never BF/GF. You were FWB, YOU JUST NEVER GOT LAID.
This is already embarrassing for you. No need to add to it, by being stupid.
Break Up with him. You will hurt, but so will he. When he begs forgiveness, give it to him if you want, but DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK. He will BEG you or his
ex mistress... the thing is HE WILL BE LOST.
If your family and friends ask want happen, all you have to say is:
"IT DIDN'T WORK OUT".
You DO NOT have to let anyone know you were made a fool of.
This is an experience for you in pain and trust.
Respect to a person is Given. Trust is Earned. Quit being so easy.
Its takes 4 to 7 relationship experiences to learn what you would like in a partner.
It takes 90 days to really BEGIN to know someone and 6 months to a year to
determine, IF you want to GAMBLE, "til death do you part."
Think About It.
no its not. you thought he changed but he didnt so what makes you so sure he wont cheat again? even if he says he'll change or if he doesnt cheat next year, marriage is a lifetime thing so are you sure with yourself that he wont do anything like this again?
No, this isn't worth saving. I'm sure it will be embarrassing and humiliating, but all of that is worth it if you live and learn from your mistake. And your mistake was getting engaged for the wrong reasons.
That might sound strange, but there seems to be an epidemic lately of people who think engagement is taking a relationship to the next level or something! That's not what it is. And while I'm sure this was painful to you, it's also proof that you didn't know him anywhere near as well as you need to know a fiance. This isn't about sex. It's about the type of communication you have and that the 2 of you are communicating on a very mature level, meaning you can tell him any thought you have and you require he does the same.
A year isn't very long and obviously you didn't know what you needed to know before accepting this proposal. Don't play head games with yourself, and don't let him try to justify or defend his behavior. Not only did he cheat, he was dishonest and lied by omission. This isn't even a serious boyfriend, let alone someone you get engaged to.
Absolutely not. No forgiveness if he cheats why is he still with you ? If you were enough why does he go with other girls ?
Don't marry him he doesn't deserve you.
once a cheater always a cheater. he's lying to you. the girl is still around having sex with him. the affairs will never go away. when this girl go another one will come. and you won't know everything