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give him a little bit of time

he's in an environment that he's just not used to anymore

he needs to get his mind wrapped around the fact that he's not being shot at anymore

ask him what you can do to make his transition a little easier

let him know that you're there for him and just give him some space to breathe and get his bearings

WOW so many wrong answers......ok I got back from a 15 month deployment as well, had the same issues. Check it out telling your husband he needs counseling is not a good idea unless it is truly ruining your relationship. If your man deployment was anything like mine is was harsh and long, Im guessing if he just got back he only feels semi comfortable at work or with his brothers in the unit. Give him time... also realize that he is suffering from not having stress..odd yes but he is. give him some space and let him have sertain liberties you wouldnt normally give him. DO NOT over coddle him, remember he will be home for several months now and he isnt gonna leave for awile. reintergation into a "normal" life is impossible realize a part of him will never return from deployment, but this gives you a chance to almost start over. do not start by "mothering him" stressing him out because he doesnt pay you any attention. It starts with you the only attention he has paid for 15 months was the attention to the man to left and right that were there to save his life. SHow him what right is and he will follow he is a soldier.

You have to give hime time. I know, I have been there. We see a lot of bad stuff that we will never talk about. He will open up to you, but it will be a little rough.

There will be moments of good and bad times, there isn't much you can do but be there for him and be as supportive as you can. I know its not much but its going to pass.

If you need to talk about it, I did a tour in Operation Desert Shield which turned into Desert Storm with the 82nd Airborne 366th in 91. I would be more then happy to chat with you about some of the things hes going through.

If you are on post, you should attend some of the family relations meetings that are held several time a week. In the meetings, they give you tools to help you understand what your soldier is going through; and ways that you can help them transition back into family life. If he saw combat, he is going to have some issues that he is going to have to deal with. You can support him and love him, but you cannot "help" him. Only soldiers that have been through the same experiences can help. If he wants to talk, let him talk. Don't ask questions. He will share with you only what he wants you to know. If he gets too out of sorts, encourage him to go to medical and have him talk to professionals that are trained to deal with STSD. Please try and be patient with him.

time and space.

takes a while for most to adjust back to the home routine and patience and understanding goes a long way.

focus on spending time together away from home (outings/movies) as this will help things along too.

Does his branch of the service have any support group that you can join? I can't believe they release these men and expect them to be cope with normal life after what they have been through. They should have classes for spouses to help them through this difficult time.

I hate the way the government uses our people and does not supply support to them. I wish you the best of time. Please call for help. In the meantime all you can do is love him. I bet he doesn't even know what he needs.

Do you think counseling together would help him readjust if you can get over that kind of traumatic stress.