My fiancé, the love of my life just revealed to me that he has colon cancer- what do I do?
He got diagnosed 3 years ago and hasn't done anything to treat it, in fact he's been living really unhealthy- smoking, drinking, not eating right. I have no clue what stage of cancer he's in. I'm very scared. He doesn't have health insurance.
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Most people are really sick after three years of full blown colon cancer. Perhaps he had polyps.
Ignoring cancer doesn't make it go away, and the longer you wait the harder it is to cure - but the good news is that colon cancer is much more likely to be cured than other types. I knew someone who ignored his liver cancer for several years; for a few years he was OK and he was in denial, and then it came back and it was too late to do anything by then.
Yes it sucks that he doesn't have health insurance, but which is worse - dying of cancer or having to pay off medical bills? You have to convince him to get it dealt with ASAP. If he won't, then you have to think about whether he's really the kind of person you want to spend your life with.
(I don't mean "consider leaving him because he's going to die soon" but rather "considering leaving him because he has some serious issues: he doesn't care for himself well and is in deep denial about a serious problem")
Sounds like your Fiance is telling his first lie before marriage. Run for the hills.
Is he over the age of 60? Close to it at least?
No?
Run - because he is probably lying like hell, and trying to manipulate you, which means he has some very serious psychological issues.
In fact, it's a lie.