My boyfriend doesn’t want me to go on a long trip, should I still go?
Me and my bf have been together almost a year and have a great relationship. I was invited to go on a trip with my sibling n her boyfriend and I really want to join them. They will be going to China. I mentioned it to my boyfriend and he doesn’t want me to go because I’d be gone for a while (3 weeks) and he says it’s dangerous there. I inivited him but he doesn’t want to go. Should I still go? What should I tell him?
More Questions From This User See All
Answers & Comments
You alone will decide if you should go. it may be a once in a lifetime trip. your boyfriend is being selfish and only thinks of missing you. it is ONLY 3 weeks. NOT a Lifetime. I wish you well. young lady.
GO TO CHINA!!! What an exciting opportunity. I agree, his arguments are weak at best. Its dangerous everywhere.... 3 weeks apart is nothing- you can facetime or talk on the phone- just dont do it to excess where it offends the people who invited you. Did your boyfriend get invited by your sibling? If not- you cannot just add another person- thats very rude.
Oh for pete's sake, it's only 3 weeks. You'd really give up something so wonderful as a trip to China because he's whining about this? Your friends are the people who are willing to sacrifice for you, but reluctant to let you sacrifice for them. This guy wants you to sacrifice a trip to China, and for why? How does this hurt him? He's being selfish and bossy. Remind him that you're not ASKING him about your going, you're TELLING him about your going. If he's mad that you're going, he'll either get over it or die mad.
That's up to you, but how much do you really care for your b/f, will he still be your b/f when you get back? Does he have a job? When I was dating my wife way back when, she won a modeling contest and the prize was a trip to Paris or 3K, she took the money because she didn't want to be away from me and I was sure glad she took the money.
You should invite him, tell him that he’s welcome to go, but that you’re going either way.
I kind of am of the mentality that you absolutely should not go without him, without giving him the opportunity to come… And you need to make it clear to him that he can come… Otherwise it will ruin your relationship.
But on the other hand, if you’re letting him come, and he refuses, then he can’t turn around and stop you from going. Because China is a big trip, and you deserve to be able to go, as long as you are letting him come with you
3 weeks isn't that long imo
It's your decision in the end.
Have an open conversation with him about this - you know you want to go and will likely have a great time. His reasoning so far is he'll miss you and 'it's dangerous out there'... You can reassure him about this, as it is a very weak argument.
Maybe press on why he doesn't want to go?