(I’m 16) So I’ve been in a relationship with this really nice boy for 4 months. I have this guy friend that moved away a little before I started going out with my boyfriend. Me and that friend have been sleeping together on and off for almost two years (we haven’t ever since he moved). Me and this friend have never had a “relationship”, but whenever i’d start dating someone he’d tell me he was jealous and would have a hatred for the guy, and whenever he’d start dating someone I’d act proud of him when I was lowkey jealous. Last summer he started telling me i was the love of his life and he didn’t want anybody else, but I never wanted to be with him because he has a history of being a player. We would hang out a lot, and we didn’t JUST sleep together. I’ve had great memories with him since I was in 8th grade. Ever since he moved I’ve felt incomplete, even though I only love him as a friend. Today he messaged me saying he was gonna move back just for me. I feel bad because I feel like I’m being dishonest with my boyfriend.
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your 16 girl, nothing is going to last forever at this age, sleep with both of them and see who you like more.
Your love story is just unfolding, no need to rush decision. Your best course of action is to wait and see if your friend will make true his promise to move back then let things happen freely. You can get rid of that feeling of being dishonest to your boyfriend by disclosing your past. Give the two boys in your life equal opportunity to prove their worth.
1. You’re 16 - you don’t love anyone but your family
2. Assuming he is also 16, I strongly doubt he’s made the decision himself to move back just for you
3. Someone that loves you would like to see you happy and wouldn’t interfere in your relationship
4. Break up with your boyfriend
why
Tell him you can’t and that you have a bf you should block him also trust me I know
So the guy never took you out on a proper date or spent a dime on you, but just asked you to hang out? If you're ok with being "the hang-out girl" good luck with all that. ugh
Seems to me you're attracted to this other guy and using your boyfriend.
I’m confused about my feelings?
I think so!
You're 16. In the next two years you're likely going to have at least three more boyfriends to some degree. Right now your life is changing fast. What you want today isn't what you're going to want tomorrow. Not literally, but when you look back on it when you're 25 you'll laugh your hiney off over it. Trust me. I've raised five daughters through that age. What I say is the truth.
Tell him you have a boyfriend now and that he should have hung on to what he had.