(Please, Please, Please do not feel the need to judge my life's situation, this is not about sex as sex does not interest me like it once did)
Never having a son has been weighing heavily upon me for many, many years. This discussion will be about life & possible marriage( being I’m not your stereotypical senior citizen). My dad lived independently till 95, living to be 98. I have modest resources, physically & mentally fit, feeing better and even more active than I was at 45. This situation will be for the right woman who's is seeking security and staying at home while having many laughs, smiles and great days living life along with all the adventures and rewards of having a family with a mature & kind gentlemen.
I have 2 grown daughters for references if need be… Please any assistance on how go about finding a lady, open to a discussion about this will be greatly appreciated.. i just need to a find nice stable lady to talk with and see where it goes..
Thank you for any help you can be and thank you for keeping your judgment in any way shape or form to yourselves.
Peace
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As sexist as your concerns are, you'd be better off just hiring a surrogate and doing IVF so you can select only male zygotes than to marry when you have no real interest in being married and to just have child after child until you get a boy. You don't really want a wife, you want a gestational surrogate who'll deliver you only the gender of child you demand. That said, you're exactly the kind of guy international "dating" sites love to target and there's probably some Albanian or Filipina woman who'd be happy to accept your green card sponsorship and a few years of wedded bliss (before she divorces you and takes your son away).
No doubt.
You can't figure out why you're having a hard time finding a woman up to 35 focking years younger than you are to marry? FFS Loser..
You're 65 focking years old. 30 year old women don't want to marry men who are near old enough to be their grand-fathers.. Good grief..
You want to meet a nice woman for marriage? Try a focking dating site.. and a reality check.. 55+ and you might meet someone.. The 30 year olds are just creeped out by you.
find one your age...they are smarter
Why would you want to be sleep deprived and change diapers again? Your daughters will have children and perhaps one will be a boy. Honestly unless you're very wealthy, this is not a good deal for anyone. You may well live to 95 but you could also end up needing a lot of care and go through any money you have. Maybe you can find an unattractive younger woman that really wants to have a kid but there is no guarantee that you will have a boy. The problem with 2nd marriages, is that you probably will want to leave your daughters something. My spouse is older than me and his father also lived well into his 90s. However my spouse is severely slowing down now. I am working because I still need health insurance. These are not my golden years and they are certainly not his. I run the risk of losing everything if something happens to him and I am physically unable to care for him. There are no guarantees in life. You could bring a child into the world and die the next day and then your child doesn't even have a dad and the mother still has to work and struggle only now doing it on her own. I'm not judging, I'm just saying this is not a good situation for someone to sell their youth for you unless you really have millions to leave her. Otherwise, you're just stealing her youth for selfish reasons. Find someone to grow old with. That gets the same jokes and the same cultural references of the times you came of age in. I get you're afraid to grow old. Your daughters will take care of you way more than a son that barely knows you because when he's old enough to play ball, you'll be too tired to play with him. 65 you might be fine. But the ride from about 73-83 when your son might be 11 or 12 will leave him highly disappointed in your energy level. Who you are in as little as 8 years is going to be vastly different than who you are right now. There are so many unwanted children in the world already. Think of the difference you could make in a child's life that is already here.
LOL You have two grown daughters for "references"? What? LOL LOL
Nice fairy tale
You could put an ad in the paper. You could approach the ministers of several churches in your area to see if they know of any women of child bearing age that would be interested in marrying a nice older man wanting to breed another family.
Be prepared to make another girl. It's your sperm that determines the sex of the baby.
Sorry Rob you are way out of your depth here. No lady of that age will be interested in a pensioner. They are usually mothers or working.
Have you joined anything ? Voluntary work , you might find different age groups there.
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I am 62 years old and if my 40 year old daughter was being a friendly companion to a 65 year old man it would only be for one reason and that would be money, think about it what do people our age have in common with the younger generation and it doesn't matter how fit you are. Most young females will eventually want marriage and babies or an old guy with lots of money so which do you fit into? If you honestly just want someone to talk to then join a club for the over 50s and you will find plenty fit females nearer your own age group that you can have conversations with, Good Luck