I feel like she is using me but at the same time she does want to hang out with me but once in a while. My friend has started this program outside of school and keeps asking me to hang out on that day and she keeps asking me to come with her. I have a feeling she keeps asking me to just want to drive her there so she doesn't have to. She obsessed with finding new programs that are close from home and about an hour from home and she'll only ask me to hang out with her on those days she has the program. Why am I feeling like she only wants to hang out on those days. I now say no to her and lie to her that I have work and then won't really see her or hear from her those other days. I have a car and so does she and I am graduating school soon and getting a full time job and she's still earning her associates degree and is 24 years old. How come she is acting like this all of a sudden? She never did a few years ago.
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You are free to say no: or even make alternative arrangements
Take control rather than whining about it
I'm so sorry this is happening to you, I know it feels like s*it but that's not your fault. Sometimes the people we care about the most turn into real jerks and it sucks, mostly because you didn't expect such thing to happen and you don't really know how to deal with it. Plus you feel offended and try to figure out how you ended up in that unpleasant situation.
How long have you known this person? Do you know if she's recently met anyone new, different? If she has "new friends" maybe?
Anyways, she's clearly treating you like an uber driver and not like a friend. If I were you I'd talk to her.
Please don't let anyone use you.
People constantly change, this is simply a fact of life.
If you feel this friend isn’t treating your right, stop spending time with her.
Given what you’ve described, that she only calls you when she wants something, just stop giving her the resources she requests and she will fade away.
In my opinion, it is better to have a void that can be filled with new, true friends than a crappy friend who uses you and makes you doubt yourself.