I’m 19 female I was homeschooled all my life and my parents don’t allow me to go anywhere.I can’t get a job or anything so I fully rely on them and I stay at home all the time unless my mom wants to take me somewhere. I literally feel like I’m going insane I’m getting so old and I want to do so much in life but I can’t, i have no idea what it’s actually like to live a normal life and I really want to and I don’t know where to start. I’ve never had a job and I don’t have a car I want to move out but I don’t have any friends family or relatives.I’m just really desperate but it seems like the only option is to be homeless a lot of people say I should be happy I don’t have any responsibilities but I’m restricted so much I can’t have friends or a boyfriend.
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Well, first, anyone telling you that you "should" be happy is someone you ignore. If it's as bad as you say, any sane person would be miserable.
Someone in your situation needs to think outside the box, because there ARE options. One of the best is job corps. Have you looked into this or heard of it? Go here and start reading: https://www.jobcorps.gov/
You're a perfect candidate for this, and now that you're a legal adult, you can sign your own docs and get started.
Another option is make an appointment with a financial aid counselor at your local community college. You don't need to be a student in most places, because these are taxpayer funded. You'll get ideas on your options.
Ask your parents what they expect of you in the future. The options are:
a) Further education: going to college or vocational training.
b) Getting a job and bringing in some money.
c) Marrying someone and being his housewife.
d) Staying at your parents' home until you have to look after them in their old age.
They at least owe you an explanation of what they want for your future, as it seems you're not allowed your own future.
Option a) is the best one, and it will mean that you'll finally be allowed to leave the house by yourself. It will give you a gradual transition into the adult world. Once you obtain some skills you have a chance of a better job. Plus you'll start meeting people your own age and perhaps have a chance of forming friendships.
Option b) is getting a job, but an unskilled job won't enable you to set yourself up in your own home. After paying your parents board there won't be much left to save up. But at least you'll have a little money of your own. And if you finally want to move out of home then an unskilled full-time job might get you enough to go into a share house with other young people.
Option c), getting married, is almost impossible if they won't even let you go out by yourself. Unless they plan on arranging your marriage for you, in which case you might be changing one prison for another. But they can't make you marry against your will.
Do you live in the USA? If not then in most other countries there are social security payments you can access. In Australia you would need to go to your local Centrelink office. The catch would be that if you were to start receiving Newstart allowance they would expect you to search for a job. Social security is probably easier to access in other countries. It's not much but it's your money.
If they really tell you that their plan for your future is to just stay and live with them and be kept until they reach old age then you're going to have to tell them that you don't want this. And you're going to have to tell them (not ask their permission) that you're going out to either find yourself a job or enrol in some vocational training in order to get a job in the future. They will just have to get used to you leaving the house and going out from time to time.
Running away and being homeless is a really bad idea. Yes there are shelters. Also as a 19 year old girl you can usually get a guy to take you in, but he'll probably expect sex. You've been too overprotected and isolated from the world too much to suddenly be out on your own with very little money.
If your parents are at all reasonable they'll realise that it will be much better to let you transition into adulthood.
you could always go stay in a shelter and let them help you out, and resorts will also house people that dont have a place to stay, i know cause i used to work in those places and would see them do it all the time
Write them a letter.
You get a job or maybe multiple jobs. Save up enough money for first and last month's rent (which you'll need to secure an apartment), then move out. Simple as that. That's how everyone moves out. It doesn't matter if you were homeschooled or if you have no other family or friends. That is irrelevant. Moving out means you are independent and not relying on anyone else for support. All it takes to do that is for you to have an income.
Your parents can't legally tell you what to do now- you're an adult. There are agencies that can help you- try going to your local public library. They often have services to help people find jobs and housing.
Read books. Find a hobby. Get a job. Homelessness is not for you.
1st step is a job. You are 19, an adult.