Usually when arguing comes easier than talking to each other, the sex disappears or any intimacy, unwilling to go too counseling, unwilling too change, They blame everything on the other person, fights about stupid things, refuses too discuss problems in the marriage because they do not see any problems in their opinion. Chooses not too do things together, becomes distant, commits adultery or flirts with others all the time.
There is a certain level that a marriage gets to where the person automatically and naturally knows inside of themselves that it's over and could never be saved -- they have no doubt about it - and know the feeling is real … no doubt about it.
That is a very good question. I struggled for 2-3 years at the end of my marriage trying to figure that exact thing out. The final straw for me was that my ex had no interest in changing anything, where I just could not continue down the same path. So I would say answer 2 questions: Are you willing to change and make an effort to save the marriage? Is your spouse willing to change and make an effort to save the marriage? If both of those are not a firm yes, then the marriage is over.
The thing that kind of gave me a push was an episode of the podcast "Freakonmics" on the benefits of quitting. Toward the end they gave a closing comment along the lines of "If you are spending time trying to figure out if you should quit something, you should have probably quit already."
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Usually when arguing comes easier than talking to each other, the sex disappears or any intimacy, unwilling to go too counseling, unwilling too change, They blame everything on the other person, fights about stupid things, refuses too discuss problems in the marriage because they do not see any problems in their opinion. Chooses not too do things together, becomes distant, commits adultery or flirts with others all the time.
You'd usually want to get that confirmed by a professional. Marriage counselors will usually be honest if they feel the couple would be better apart.
When your spouse files the divorce papers!
When just one of you can say that they are no longer " in love " with the other, it is time to let it go !!!
Try this link
https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&issue=2008-07...
If neither of you is happy or one of you is very unhappy and you're not willing to try couples therapy, consider it over.
There is a certain level that a marriage gets to where the person automatically and naturally knows inside of themselves that it's over and could never be saved -- they have no doubt about it - and know the feeling is real … no doubt about it.
That is a very good question. I struggled for 2-3 years at the end of my marriage trying to figure that exact thing out. The final straw for me was that my ex had no interest in changing anything, where I just could not continue down the same path. So I would say answer 2 questions: Are you willing to change and make an effort to save the marriage? Is your spouse willing to change and make an effort to save the marriage? If both of those are not a firm yes, then the marriage is over.
The thing that kind of gave me a push was an episode of the podcast "Freakonmics" on the benefits of quitting. Toward the end they gave a closing comment along the lines of "If you are spending time trying to figure out if you should quit something, you should have probably quit already."
When you catch your spouse in bed doing the deed with someone else? Lol
Only by trying to save it, going to couples counseling, and trying everything without success. Only then you can tell.
When you have to make excuses. When you question your love.when you don't like each other anymore. When everything is a effort.