I know this is a duplicate question, but I couldn't figure out how to amend my question.I'm trying to find a way for my fiancé and I to meet new people here in Phoenix. I've heard of singles groups that do fun activities, social events, movie nights, etc. I don't know if they have &/or where to find similar groups for couples. We don't drink or smoke & don't belong to a particular religious denomination. Everytime I try searching the internet, "swing style" sites come up...that's NOT what I'm talking about!! We're looking for genuine activities to do with a group of other couples. We're newly engaged & don't have alot of common friends as a "couple". We recently went rafting & was paired up with a couple from FL. It gave us the idea that it would be great to belong a group here locally in Phoenix that could possibly give us some fun things to do on the weekends & have the opportuntiy to meet other friends/couples who have similar interests.. Created by Anne B. society-culture-en - cultures-groups-en - other-cultures-groups-en

How can my fiancé and I find groups to meet other couples and new people?

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How can my fiancé and I find groups to meet other couples and new people?

I know this is a duplicate question, but I couldn't figure out how to amend my question.

I'm trying to find a way for my fiancé and I to meet new people here in Phoenix. I've heard of singles groups that do fun activities, social events, movie nights, etc. I don't know if they have &/or where to find similar groups for couples. We don't drink or smoke & don't belong to a particular religious denomination. Everytime I try searching the internet, "swing style" sites come up...that's NOT what I'm talking about!! We're looking for genuine activities to do with a group of other couples. We're newly engaged & don't have alot of common friends as a "couple". We recently went rafting & was paired up with a couple from FL. It gave us the idea that it would be great to belong a group here locally in Phoenix that could possibly give us some fun things to do on the weekends & have the opportuntiy to meet other friends/couples who have similar interests.

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Ken F

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If either of you or both share a faith, a moderate to large-sized church will by default have a 'young couples' group...covering the range of singles to newly married. The newly marrieds generally tend to migrate to exclusive 'newly married' groups because sometimes singles feel awkward when they are with newly marrieds...it all depends on the dynamics. These groups have all of the social activities you described and there will be opportunities to form your own subgroups. If you are in a metropolitan area, you can find non-denominational churches that welcome people with no religious beliefs or convictions...and there generally should be no pressure to become a member. An added benefit of these groups is that the pastoring minister will usually provide pre-marital counseling for free (which I recommend for EVERY couple before they get married)...and these sessions are tailored to whether you are religious or not. Most pastors are specifically trained for counseling.

Other non-religious options include:

- Community college or centers

- YMCA

- Business networking or rotary clubs

- Get reconnected with old friends, classmates...LinkedIn is a great resouce.

One dynamic that you might need to get used to...

For most everything up through college, contexts for socialization (ski trips, gatherings, etc.) were basically set up for us. After marriage, you pretty much cannot expect this dynamic to continue...it pretty much reverses. You might need to be the initiator for a lot of the things we took for granted in our earlier years. It's a very subtle dynamic shift that most people do not recognize, and often get frustrated about because they didn't see it coming. The fact that you are being proactive about this indicates you should have a healthy marriage...keep up the good investigations!

Shane

"Forgive and forget" is really easy to say when you want to get out of the doghouse. Unfortunately, he can never see it through your eyes no matter how hard he tries. He doesn't understand that it's not just him in the relationship, it's you, too. It looks like he gets to call the shots and you get to deal with the repurcussions- pending you find out and call him out on his behavior. I would not marry this guy. I don't even think I would give him the time of day. A lot of women think they can "fix" men. Well, if he's that damaged in the first place, why would you even want to try to fix him? Most of the time they just take better precautions to not get caught. His online stuff was hurtful. What if he invited strange women into your house? He might as well be doing that if he's talking to girls online. Not to mention, how would he felt if you did that to him? I'd break this one off. Wait for a guy that is worth marrying and is not a fixer-upper and start your married life off right. You are a smart woman and you deserve better than this immature, thoughtless guy. Imagine what would happen if you had kids' with him and he was "bored" with child raising and decided he needed to hang out on craigslist, so he wasn't so "bored"? You do deserve better and there are better men out there. He's a snake and you deserve at least a trout or a cute, playful, loyal dolphin.

Anonymous

I hear ya on this one!

I know lots of people (couples) that feel the same way. If there isn't anything out there perhaps you could start up a group yourself... which may be difficult because I imagine the swinging issue will keep coming up.

I'd say, sports -team sports like mixed floor hockey, volleyball, baseball they usually have couples playing. Other than that it just seems to be work connections that are the most common. If you figure something out please let the rest of us couples know!

Anonymous

You might look for hiking clubs, Card groups, cooking clubs. Riding, racing, planting and and and Start writing and find out what the Chamber of Commerce can do for you.

cerridwenamcoedwig

Don't be looking specifically for "couples". Look for activities that interest you, and as you get to know folks, you'll find some are couples, and the friendships will follow.