it'll be up to the courts/lawyers..as to where the child should live..what's in the best interest for that child* If she has a record of not being a good mum, unfit mother to her other children....then the courts will decide what is BEST for this child*...U should stay out of it*..let the courts n your fiance n his ex figure things out*..It's not for YOU to decide what's best ..you say she got upset when she found out he's engaged to you n having a child with you...how would YOU feel if u were her? in her shoes*? n for her to say she doesn't want him in her childs life because of YOU*.....i think there's more to it than that* U dont know the whole story or situation..perhaps your fiance was playing games with her? didn't tell her he's with you n expecting a child with you....u dont know what's really going on other than what HE tells you, what HE wants you to know*........but either way..it's not up to you*! how would YOU feel if he did this to you, then got engaged with the other woman...ud say u dont want him in babys life either cuz ur hurt n pissed off............he is legally obligated to pay child support for this child with the other woman.....n he'll have rights to see that child..through the courts....no matter what YOU say or what SHE says.... HE NEEDS to go to court with her...U STAY HOME that day...dont get urself involved*!

he seems unstable. leave him. you are better off without him.

In addition to what the others have said, I will add this: go to the doctor immediately, tell this story, and get a full panel of STD tests. Then get HPV shots. Whatever infections and diseases she has from the other men she's had sex with, you have now. That's because your fiancé can't be bothered to use condoms even with sex that's supposedly on the side. It's not like condoms failed with each of you. So he has her diseases and now you do, too.

Frankly, if there's still time, I suggest an abortion. It's bad enough that you have one kid with this man; if there's any way to prevent another child to be born into this mess, do it.

And don't worry about her "winning." He's no prize. He's a cheater. He cheated on you, he'll cheat on her.

I left a guy who had pursuits else where, God bless his soul I loved him but it was a stupid love a dumb girl has. At least I walked away from that idiot. You want to embrace the madness. This is where you turn to prayer, and take your family to church.. Ask in deep prayer for the Holy Spirit to guide you.

So your so-called "good father and fiance" is fvcking around on you, and you're still with him? And the only thing you're worrying about is his ex? Are you stupid? Did you vote for Trump? I bet you did.

For ***** sake...

Pack up your kids and leave him. You are better off without him, and the kids are better off not being constantly around a man who thinks that it's okay to cheat on his significant other.

Their custody battle is between THEM since THEY are the parents. Not you.

Wise up

You're making babies with some guy who is also making babies with someone else at the same time.

"She felt like he wouldn't be a full time dad" And she's right. He has kids by different women. None of these kids are going to get a full-time dad.

"my fiancé even says she's unfit and he's worried about his child's wellbeing" How odd that he didn't think of that before he put his penis in her vagina.

You have ZERO say in how she parents or who gets custody of her child. Your opinion and preferences are irrelevant when it comes to HER children. Her children have two parents - none of which are YOU.

There is no law against having no job and no car. There is also no law against him putting his penis in the vaginas of even more women who are "unfit" to be mothers. You have no power or control here. None - other than to leave - and even then, your lives are still tied together as he is the father of your children.

I don't understand why you think SHE is so awful. Your "fiance" is the one who is knocking up other women. What a FABULOUS father and role model you've chosen. Well done.

What exactly is your question?

He made the decision to have a child with you and to have a child with her. He needs to step up and take some responsibility for his decisions and his actions. Why would he have a child with her when he is engaged to you? How can you trust him? How can your child learn to trust him? Maybe he should go back to her if he wanted a child with her. He may have used contraception that didn't work or something, but sexual intercourse very often results in a child. he knows that, but still went ahead.

You deserve better than the drama and dishonesty. Believe me, you will find someone that knows how to treat a woman. Don't fool yourself into thinking this was the only time he sneaked around

some kids just have no chance in life