TRY COUNSELING, IF IT STILL AINT WORKING FOR YA, GOT TO DO WHAT YOU GOT TO DO. YOU DON'T WANT YOUR CHILD TO GROW UP SEEING YOU AND HUBBY UNHAPPY.
I ALWAYS SAID I RATHER BE LONELY THAN UNHAPPY. YOU ARE YOUNG SO YOU GOT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TO LIVE AND MAKE SURE YOU LIVE IT WELL FOR YOUR HEALTH AND THE BABY'S HEALTH, BUT YOU DO NEED TO MAKE HIM AWARE OF YOUR FEELINGS EARLY WHO KNOWS HE MIGHT FEEL THE SAME. MAKE SURE THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT.
You may be going thru a rough patch emotionally and pysically right now. You didn't say how old the baby was, but hormones could play a huge part in your feelings. I would not make any snap decisions. Ask yourself things like: Is he there for you emotionally? Or is he emotionally detached? Is he helping you with the baby or not? Is he giving your family finacial stability or are you scraping by? Is he there for you in every way or only wanting his needs met? You should look within yourself to find the answers. Noone can tell you to stay or leave, however if your feelings for your husband have changed and you feel there is no getting back those feelings for him, I would say leave. Your baby needs to grow up in a home that is loving in every way. You will want to give your child the security of a healthy relationship, not a fractured one.
I wish you all the best, whatever your decision is.
First, how old is the baby? It's very normal for a woman who have just had a baby to lose interest in things. It does return though. if it takes longer, get some counseling together. And remember, it's not love that holds a marriage together, it's comitment. If marriage is like a roller coaster the feelings are like the car you're in, it goes up and down all the time. The comitment is the bolt's that keep all that steel from just flying apart at the first turn.
thats normal dear. in the beginning he was the perfect man then when the baby came he is not there for u as much emotionally. a lot of men feel that when there wives become mothers the love is now only for the kid and feel left out and then seing him so emotionally away u also dont have any thing for him. hang on. trust me it comes back. just give him a little time. having a baby is a lot of stress and u have a lot of hormones messing with ur brain. once u get into a routine u will see all will be better. but be realisic and dont expect things to ever get back to what they were they never will.
I suppose the question needs to be asked as to why you don't feel anything towards him. Something he did or perhaps didnt do? At any rate, you should speak to him about what you are feeling. I have heard a great number of times, women feel something but they don't tell him, and expect that if he really knew me that well then he would know. Get a grip, guys just don't think that way. The child in the picture is another issue, but in the case of breakup just come up with an amicable solution that works for both parents. I think its perfectly normal for a mother to feel that way about her husband. But marriage is hard work, even after the honeymoon is over, there needs to be rekindling of that flame. Perhaps you like the mother aspect of yourself, but sometimes you just wish that someone would see that lady in you, as your husband did once. My suggestion, just sit down and TALK.
If so, it's perfectly normal. When a mother gives birth, by instinct you become more attached to the baby than you to do your husband. You even loose sexual interest for awhile.
Within time, the interest for your husband comes back as well as for other things.
Take some time away from each other. It may be good for both of you. Spend a weekend somewhere or let him go on a fishing or hunting trip or something. You will probably appreciate him more after you've been without him for a while.
Do NOT stay in a bad relationship for your child's sake.If mommy is unhappy,child can feel it.But your situation doesn't sound desperate,you still must love him only are not infatuated by him any more,cause love changes and you have to find a new way to love him(each other).
Too many people are taking marriage too lightly. Your going through a rough patch. We all go through them. Get some therapy, if not for you both then just for you. Having children is a huge adjustment. Dont be so quick to throw it all away just yet.
You should've considered that positbility BEFORE you got married, and certainly before you had a baby. A marriage is something you need to work at; however, most are too lazy and selfish, so they feel that signing divorce papers is easier.
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TRY COUNSELING, IF IT STILL AINT WORKING FOR YA, GOT TO DO WHAT YOU GOT TO DO. YOU DON'T WANT YOUR CHILD TO GROW UP SEEING YOU AND HUBBY UNHAPPY.
I ALWAYS SAID I RATHER BE LONELY THAN UNHAPPY. YOU ARE YOUNG SO YOU GOT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TO LIVE AND MAKE SURE YOU LIVE IT WELL FOR YOUR HEALTH AND THE BABY'S HEALTH, BUT YOU DO NEED TO MAKE HIM AWARE OF YOUR FEELINGS EARLY WHO KNOWS HE MIGHT FEEL THE SAME. MAKE SURE THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT.
You may be going thru a rough patch emotionally and pysically right now. You didn't say how old the baby was, but hormones could play a huge part in your feelings. I would not make any snap decisions. Ask yourself things like: Is he there for you emotionally? Or is he emotionally detached? Is he helping you with the baby or not? Is he giving your family finacial stability or are you scraping by? Is he there for you in every way or only wanting his needs met? You should look within yourself to find the answers. Noone can tell you to stay or leave, however if your feelings for your husband have changed and you feel there is no getting back those feelings for him, I would say leave. Your baby needs to grow up in a home that is loving in every way. You will want to give your child the security of a healthy relationship, not a fractured one.
I wish you all the best, whatever your decision is.
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First, how old is the baby? It's very normal for a woman who have just had a baby to lose interest in things. It does return though. if it takes longer, get some counseling together. And remember, it's not love that holds a marriage together, it's comitment. If marriage is like a roller coaster the feelings are like the car you're in, it goes up and down all the time. The comitment is the bolt's that keep all that steel from just flying apart at the first turn.
thats normal dear. in the beginning he was the perfect man then when the baby came he is not there for u as much emotionally. a lot of men feel that when there wives become mothers the love is now only for the kid and feel left out and then seing him so emotionally away u also dont have any thing for him. hang on. trust me it comes back. just give him a little time. having a baby is a lot of stress and u have a lot of hormones messing with ur brain. once u get into a routine u will see all will be better. but be realisic and dont expect things to ever get back to what they were they never will.
I suppose the question needs to be asked as to why you don't feel anything towards him. Something he did or perhaps didnt do? At any rate, you should speak to him about what you are feeling. I have heard a great number of times, women feel something but they don't tell him, and expect that if he really knew me that well then he would know. Get a grip, guys just don't think that way. The child in the picture is another issue, but in the case of breakup just come up with an amicable solution that works for both parents. I think its perfectly normal for a mother to feel that way about her husband. But marriage is hard work, even after the honeymoon is over, there needs to be rekindling of that flame. Perhaps you like the mother aspect of yourself, but sometimes you just wish that someone would see that lady in you, as your husband did once. My suggestion, just sit down and TALK.
Did you just have this baby?
If so, it's perfectly normal. When a mother gives birth, by instinct you become more attached to the baby than you to do your husband. You even loose sexual interest for awhile.
Within time, the interest for your husband comes back as well as for other things.
Take some time away from each other. It may be good for both of you. Spend a weekend somewhere or let him go on a fishing or hunting trip or something. You will probably appreciate him more after you've been without him for a while.
Do NOT stay in a bad relationship for your child's sake.If mommy is unhappy,child can feel it.But your situation doesn't sound desperate,you still must love him only are not infatuated by him any more,cause love changes and you have to find a new way to love him(each other).
Too many people are taking marriage too lightly. Your going through a rough patch. We all go through them. Get some therapy, if not for you both then just for you. Having children is a huge adjustment. Dont be so quick to throw it all away just yet.
You should've considered that positbility BEFORE you got married, and certainly before you had a baby. A marriage is something you need to work at; however, most are too lazy and selfish, so they feel that signing divorce papers is easier.
Can you be more specific. What is making you unhappy? Are you bored? Is he doing something wrong? Could it be hormonal?
Why don't you two get a babysitter and spend a night out on the town? Work on re-kindling?