My partner of 2yrs (friends for 10yrs before we got together) is always moody. He has a really short temper & is forever snapping at me.
The beginning of our relationship was tough as I was 23 & he was 20 & it was like living with a child & he was controlling & paranoid & suffered with anxiety. We managed to sort it out & it's been really good for a year BUT he is still so short with me & it's like he just wants to argue with me. We're getting married in July & I'm so worried that once were married nothing change or he'll get worse.
He has mentioned about suffering with depression & feeling down & I truly think he has something emotionally/mentally wrong with him.
I used to suffer with depression & notice some signs but it is so hard to deal with.
He did see a DR last year about it as he was having night terrors to but didn't follow anything through (like everything he does).
Please give me advice with what route to take this down before I begin a marriage in anticipation!
Many thanks xxx
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See if your health insurance covers family and couples counseling. Being willing to work on his issues would be an indication that he is also mature enough to get married. Getting married adds a lot of extra stress to your life, both the planning of the event (even if it is small), the financial extra burden that comes with it and everything else that comes with promising to be with someone for the rest of your life.
Yes depression can make someone snappy and moody, and he might need some treatment. If you have to put the wedding off until you are both doing better, do it. It is hard to deal with someone who has mental health problems, harder for him of course, but also hard to live with, especially if there is no treatment in place.
Take care, hope it all works out.
He should see a Cognitive Therapist and so should you.
Are you sure you actually want to marry this person? It sounds like you have low self-esteem or you wouldn't put up with this kind of behaviour. It won't get any better but is likely to get worse.
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