Why is my fiancé act like this?
I've been dating this man for 2 years and every time we take a step forward in our relationship, he freaks out. We just got engaged a month ago, and now he's barely talking to me at all. I wasn't pressure him to marry me. He was at his own free will. He keeps going hot and cold. One week he acts like he totally adores me and I'm the greatest, then the next he acts like I'm just a nuisance. Why is he like this? It is hurting my heart deeply. I would never do this to him. Why should I have to play cat and mouse game with my own husband to be. If I have problem with him I go directly to him. I have asked him about it and he just says I'm imaging things. Is this just a normal man thing?
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no. this is not at all normal behavior. there is something wrong with this man. if you have approached him about it and he denies it and accuses you have imagining it, you need to break your engagement and get away from him. this sort of behavior will only get worse after you are married and you will spend your married life upset and heartbroken and he might even eventually succeed in making you believe that it is all your fault.
men like this are dangerous and out to hurt women and make them feel there is something wrong with them. don't let him do this to you. i know from personal experience that what he is doing is the cruelest and meanest form of control and manipulation. only deeply wounded and unbalanced people do this. get away from him while you still can.
Are you nagging him to death about pink flowers, lilac tulle, and the difference between ivory and eggshell to death? Men do NOT care about butterflies, rainbows, tiaras nor shoes. I suggest that if you have a deep desire to pick up stationary and discuss bridal gown trends, I suggest you do so with your girlfriends.
You may just have a bad case of becoming bridezilla. I suggest you chill it with the wedding talk. Another possibility is that you are way to young and it was intended to be a long engagement and you are now cornering the guy into giving you a wedding date as soon as possible. I suggest you communicate what is the issue.
Good luck
If he's this way now..........it will only get worse once you're married.
You either deal with it or walk away very very fast.