I’m a 20 yo male who has never kissed or had a relationship of any kind in his entire life. I know I’m young and that there are people way older then me who are single, never kissed or have had sex. However why is it that I can’t I even look at a couple and want what they have. I know people say that being single is great and all, but I hate it. I want someone I can tell everything to, cuddle with, and hell just watch a movie with. I just want a relationship. some form of intimacy with someone. I know that people say that I’m better off because I’ve never had my heart broken but the truth is am I really better off because I’m 20 now and it’s starting to feel like I will never be loved and my heart has been broken the entire time. I guess what my really question at the end of the day really is “how can I stop feeling this way and get over it ?” because every day I wake up alone and it’s killing me sometimes I wonder if it’s time to just give up.
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You are idealizing relationships.
Once the infatuation/honeymoon stages dies out, ALL relationships have conflict and hurt. And ONLY 12.5% of ALL married couples end up having a close and harmonious marriage, and it takes them about 20 years to figure out how to make this work.
There is NO loneliness greater than being in a relationship during conflict. And no greater sorrow either. Even more sorrowful than YOU feel.
Couples put on a good face in public. They are never as happy as YOU are thinking they are.
The fact is that once the honeymoon has died out, we will NEVER be any happier WITH someone than we were happy BEFORE we met them.
So if you want to be happy with someone, you need to learn how to become happy now while you are still single. If you want to be one of those 12.5% who DO create a happy lasting marriage.
I suspect ... and I do not know you and I may be wrong ... but I suspect that you are using this "I'm single and miserable" as an excuse to NOT face your inner issues and resolve them .. to NOT clear up these issues so that you CAN become happy and maybe attract someone else who is also happy.
Look inside and see if this is what is happening, because if it IS, you will not likely find anyone and if you do you will wreck the relationship and suffer greatly.
And that would be so sad for you.
There's an obvious reason you're 20 years old and haven't kissed anyone... what is it? I mean, it sounds like you want to... but what's getting in your way?
When you have your first kiss, I hope it's special. When you have sex for the first time, I hope it's epic!
Will you want to be with that person for the rest of your life? Once you get passed these first events, you'll have a better supply of information to answer that question.
Some people are fine having sex and doing all kinds of fun stuff with their crush without making any relationship commitments at all. Some people want to make promises.
I feel like good things come when you aren’t looking for it. That is how I got my boyfriend. Focus on your life and someone good will come along.
Hold your horse dear !!! You are just 20
Ok try this ;;each time you see a couple tell yourself ;;soon it will be my turn
and it will work