I'd be honest and say no matter how it hurt, ive not reacted appropriately many times, in fact not reacting at all-- when i should have! Do not be blind to what is needed, for i thought just being quiet sometimes was good enough, but in fact was feeding the hurts of others. Open ur eyes and ur heart, feel what others are feeling, and do the golden rule as best u can. Then u wont regret the hurts u'l experience later when u didnt apologize or correct the mistake soon after. Oh, if the stiff necked reader would listen, take heed, for it is no joke. Thats what i can tell.

Though I feel like I was hurt alot and my reaction was ultimately because of the hurt that person caused me

I thought " why should anyone react in a way that is bad ?

Many people go through so much but some people can handle it better by reasoning and questioning or answering and with less reaction so reacting in a way that is bad is not always necessary u see (thought it teaches u a lot ) "

so if u know u have reacted in a way that's bad , u can apologize as much as u can if u want that relationship back but if u think both r better off without an intimate relationship u can only be very good to that person whenever u meet or talk.

Keeping both happy and at peace.

So thats all ..hope it helps. :) tc

(Oh gosh. This is a situation I've been in.) I don't have a great temper, to put it mildly. It's more controlled now because past experiences include my temper getting me in these situations.

First, really understand what you've done, and why it hurt the other party. Apologize, but give the other person space if he/she is really mad. In that case, let them know that you know you were wrong, and then leave it at there. Let them know that you're there for them and that you hope he/she accepts your apology, no matter how long it takes.

If you really want to go that extra mile, give them a meaningful gift or a letter. (My friend once wrote pages of apologies that really analyzed a friendship and her regrets.)

Always remember- don't be too excessive. It can drive the person away even more.

apologize but beg for forgiveness and hope they have a heart and an understanding attitude to forgive . Sometimes people dont accept apologies tho, so what do you do then? Also sometimes people act as if they deserve an apology when they started the whole ordeal in the first place. I'm in that position right now. I want to make up with my 2 old friends but I dont see it happening. It's like their mind is made up and there is no going back. Sad really, but short of apologizing for something i didnt start , which I have , it seems its a lost cause. Maybe someday they can see it wasn't just me - it takes two to tango and I also feel I was tricked by them as well. So....I guess just live and let live.

I don't think it would be wrong to state that none of us gets through this life without experiencing one form of regret or another, and truly most of these regrets happen because we did not have the wisdom to just respond, instead of reacting.

The heart, mind and soul must enter into the realm where we actually feel more than remorse... sorrow can be a wonderful teacher which calls all students to appear. Having the kind of sorrow that indeed causes us to examine all thoughts, all ideals that we thought we cherished, or held special meaning for us, until in recognition we learn that ideals don't matter much if we end up regretting our deeds and words spoken in anger or haste.

So a retreat might be heedfully taken, a going forth to that dwelling place where inner rest is found, a sanctuary with bridging angels who gather us to newness.. as Creations come to life thar' as new dawns appear in our skies, our hearths raised with light, seen, perceived warming for us with many a star-bright to reflect upon...so a new *Shine on* ignites us, with better sense until loving-nests are formed within; warming effects & affections... as Love is honed in us with that tempered steel tuning forks forged within until we resonate with purifying languages our spirits h ear t..

If, we can't be it, if we can't imagine it... then, first thing to (i) do is reflect on my reactions, and it's kinda instant understanding... if I did wrong, then I know it. With further reflection, I am taken to the place of asking forgiveness, forgiving myself as well for my immature reactions... asking others to forgive me for putting them through my inconsistency if need be. If someone has wounded me, and I couldn't handle the pain or rejection, then perhaps a disclosure of what led up to those reactions would free us both from the event of it. Some regret is a good thing, an over abundant amount is critical, meaning we have tons of work ahead to commit ourselves to.

Also have you ever noticed that it is almost as if, you were called into someone's life (~ or them to ours) for a special reason, and things were shaken up? Gotta give those times some deep deliberation, as well... another quest for another day! Let's just say, we can be used to help *Awaken* others as well, and in the wilds of this, even though pain becomes known to us, people have their hearts and minds opened to new ideals, themes, life giving seasonings.

It's as though, we were meant to help another, even *if* at cost to y(ourself)! Can we say; certain sensations of regretful ness are clarifying? Aches or ashes, all depends upon how we view these matters in life; and we see these as either stepping stones, or stumbling blocks .... The t*rue – bles.* (blessed, blues) come with troubles (gleaming rubies, gemstones) ~ no doubting for we all are called in at times for the benefit of others and them us ... and the bell chimes continue to ring on… We're walking in valleys where thorns and thistle grow, pricking all that we are, and each wound somehow gathers us into new knowledge of self care and other care... blessings and sweet exchanges, can O cure in us... inner peace consoles as wisdom forms us, surrounds us, when the two become one, a child is born unto us!

This is not as straightforward as it may appear. Sure it's totally right to apologise if we have done something wrong no matter how difficult that may be. But what if your uncool reaction was just what the other person was seeking? What if they smirked and goaded and kept on goading and goading and saying horrible hurtful things even though you asked them to stop before you finally lost your cool and retorted with some hurtful albeit truthful remark in exchange? What then? How do you apologise and regain the dignity you lost, which they wanted you to lose? And what if they are demanding an apology to further their own cause? In these circumstances an apology would need to be carefully worded but even that could cause further offence.

There is no IF here. With to possible exception of psychopaths, EVERYONE acts in a why they later regret on a regular basis. How they react, and how they SHOULD react depends on the details of what happened. Asking the question in the form asked here is like asking the best way to get to work, without saying anything about where the person lives, where they work, or what types of transportation are available.

Of course, you have to start by apologizing. Express the fact that you were thinking irrationally, and that you feel bad for what you said and that you hadn't meant it at all. Expressing regret for something mean or hurtful you said is the best way to gain forgiveness, but only if you are sincere about it. You can offer a small gift, like a coffee or a cup of tea, and hope that you can be forgiven.

First and foremost, why is this in the "fish" section? Lol

Anyways, now to answer your question.

First things first I would apologize. Not just go though the motions with it, but really mean it from the heart and be sincere. as much as I dislike opening up I dislike the fact I acted like an ******, and the fact that I dislike opening up makes it that much special.

Sincerely reassure them you won't do it again.

The sufferer will probably think you'll do it again if a similar situation arises, and it could impare their reaction to your initial apology.

And now to put the icing on the cake, get them something you know is meaningful to them.

You don't have to get him/her a giant box of chocolate or a new gold chain but you want to get them something that lets them know you pay attention to them, and care. (For example, my gf collects quarters of all 50 states and I got her one she was missing)

expect a big hug and kiss if I were you by this point. Good luck :)

If the damage has already been done, there is not much you can do aside from giving a sincere apology as soon as possible and making sure the person you said the hurtful words to knows that it was a mistake.

I try to avoid these situations altogether by taking a deep breath and counting to 10 when I feel overwhelmed. It is much easier to prevent saying something hurtful to a friend or colleague than it is to repair the relationship with that person after saying it.