I’m 5'4-5'5, and around 105lbs. I’m usually around 97lbs, and people always said I was “tiny” or “too skinny” (not that I agree). Anyway thanksgiving is coming and I’m with my family, grandparents, mother father etc. It is driving me crazy...everyone is being so insanely rude about my weight, which I’m finding frustrating and hurtful. Yes, yes, yes, I’m chubby. Whatever. I’ll change that, and get back down to 97, but the fact is, I’m not huge and I know it. My grandmother (who I haven’t seen in two yrs) keeps saying things like “you know, you really should not eat that. Unless you want to get fatter then you already are”. To me that is horrifying, it may be true, but it just seems mean. My mom was getting on my case about my “weight” and I mentioned how I’m not THAT much heavier then usual and she says “you ran this last summer when you were living with Jen, and muscle ways a whole lot more then fat”. I’m just wondering if for one, I am so amazingly “fat” that it’s ok for them to go on about it?
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Really what your family is doing is wrong i mean to me you sound tiny but really you should just do crunches everynight and that will give you abs and then you have muslce not fat but really you should worry what they say its not right what they are saying you are who you are and they should just accept that and stop complaining
Because of hormonal issues, I was thin during my 20s and overweight during my 30s. And now, in my late 30s, the chubbiness is starting to vaporise. Nonetheless, my family of rather 'particular' aunts (three of them) still refer to me as 'fatso'.
Since I am still single with no kids, despite being independent in other ways, I find this infuriating at times. But I have learned that anger requires a target; so when I get annoyed, I just watching my own heart beat to calm down and shut it out.
Someone will always pick on you for some thing; so you can start learning to ignore unnecessary criticism from now.
Nonetheless, in my experience, there are some things that people of all proportions should do:
Keep your heart, gut and liver clean. Stay supple. Have a strong back. Avoid getting a paunch (yes, lots of overweight people have flat tummies while some thin ones have dribbly bellies). Dress nicely out of respect for oneself.
If you're doing the bare minimum to ensure all of the above, then just ignore all that criticism and cease to feel guilty.
If you treat yourself like a goddess, at whatever size, you are going to naturally eat and do only whatever is going to be good for you. Don't wait for anyone else to do it for you - and expect plenty of people to hate you for being 'fabulous' afterwards.
When you do everything with pleasure, including eating a Mars or a taco, it won't have as negative of a result and you won't do it compulsively.
105 pounds for 5'4'' or 5'5''? That is underweight. However, if you feel self-concious about your weight, you can tell people it is muscle, because muscle weighs more than fat. T105 lbs is a good weight to be at because when you become a lot older, your body will thin and it will become unhealthy to be 95 pounds. If I were you I would tell my family that I feel comfortable with my weight. The average weight for 5'4/5'5 is around 120-125 pounds. Be proud of your weight...you are thin!
Oh my ******* god. I'm at a normal, healthy weight, and I'm a size 2 in jeans. I'm 5'4" to 5'5", and I'm 133 lbs. Seriously, you are probably incredibly skinny. (I'm also a teenager.)
They are being SO rude . . . I just cannot believe anyone would do that to their daughter, even if their daughter IS overweight! You need to do something about it-I have a friend who was driven to an eating disorder because of family comments.
Keep in there-and remember, no matter what they say, you are NOT fat!!!!
Good luck.
I have the same problem with my family. They mean well, BUT they come across as mean. I do have a weight problem. You sound like you could actually look healthy. Are you happy with yourself? At the end of the day that is all that matters.
At 5'4", 105 pounds is actually UNDERWEIGHT. The weight range for 5'4" is 120-140.
Enjoy your Thanksgiving, eat what you want, and feel good about yourself!!!
Your optimal weight for your height is actually around 120 pounds. It usually depends on your age though. But yeah, 105 lbs. is really skinny, I wouldn't worry about it.
Well, it realy doesn't sound like you are that heavy. I think everyone is beautiful in their on way. You could lose weight, but if you are not doing it for you, then don't do it at all. It's your body, not your mom or dad. Remember that. Plus guy don't like boney women these days.
I think your family was exaggerating, i think youre underweight for your height. I'm 5'5 and I'm 108 and I don't feel bad about my weight at all. Maybe your parents/family are just trying to stop you from eating junk food that's bad for you.
well talk to your family. they should be supporting you in your trying for weight loss not trying to put you down. i dont know what u look like so i cant determan if your fat or not. to me you sound healthy. if you have fat in some areas just go to the gym and work it off. no big deal. dont let your family put you down. its not right. you will lse the weight fast. its only 8 pounds its simple.