I moved from the state that I’m from about a year and a half ago. I went back for round 6 weeks during this past summer (I lived with my best friend). I met this guy at a frat party. Nothing really happened the night we met- he pretty much spent the whole time I was there with me- but nothing big went down (no kissing, etc.). I really didn’t even think we’d hang out after that night- well, I was wrong. It was only about two weeks before I left, but during that time we saw each other. I think I really fell for him...I don’t know though...by the time I left we’d gotten somewhat physical (we didn’t have sex. I’m not like that, in fact I’m a virgin by choice). He told me that I was “something special”, expressed that he “really, really” liked me, that there was something different about me etc.- not to mention gone on about how I’m so “beautiful”. The thing is this- he seemed incredible...very, very attractive, seemingly wonderful personality, so on & so forth. But the thing is this-
Update:Or should I just realize that if he cared he would contact me- and it’s pointless either way, because I’d probably end up being humiliated if he found out the half about me? (Once again, sorry this is so long)
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Take control, contact him immediately, and set out all your worries on the table in front of him. Tell him everything about how uncomfortable you feel about your background compared to his. Life's too short for holding back or saying important things. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain, and he will (or should) have massive respect for your honesty and openness. Tell him he MUST give an honest reply to you about how he feels about the new information you're giving him.
What if he's Mr Right? Don't you dare let a possible Mr Right slip through your fingers like sand! Find out if he's the one. Do it now - you have nothing to lose and (potentially) everything to gain.
Good luck :)
Ok, he DID try to contact you - you pretty much made it seem like you weren't interested because you feel intimidated. So you can't use the whole, if he was interested he would contact me excuse...
Look sweetie, people from different backgrounds, social structures, financial means, education etc get together and live happily ever after all the time...
No don't text, call...have a REAL conversation. That way, you will know for sure by the sound of his voice & the flow of the conversation if there is something there worth working on...
NEVER, but NEVER, be ashamed of who or what you are, or where you came from for that matter. Even if some rich folk don't find you worthy enough, they'll think a lot less of someone who has no pride. Even the rich, look down on the rich, all depends "how" rich. And then there's different kinds of rich, some actually come from people just like yourself, and therefor have no problem with everyday ppl. And quit putting yourself down, he was drawn to you for some reason.
Contact him and apologize for the lack of contact, you can find some excuse. Let him know your coming, and suggest you meet for coffee or something small, let him take it further. You just be yourself and honest with him, forget you dumb worries, he's looking for fun, happy times, to find out what your personality's like. If he were looking for a rich girl, believe me he knows how to spot them. But it was you who caught his attention. Don't judge him and his family by their money, as already admitted you think he will judge you for not having it, be open minded or you'll loose out on a lot in life. Now meet him and enjoy, count only on having a good time.
first of all he seems to care about you because he has been trying to contact you and apparently since you have been short iwth him and haven't keep in contact with him, he probably assumed you aren't interested and given up.
secondly, I doubt he will care about your background and where you came from. Just because he comes from a family with money doesn't mean he is shallow and only befriends people with money.
I think you really need to just chill out and if you like this guy, hit him up. You never know what may happen but if you don't try Nothing will happen.
He wouldn't have texted you if he didn't care. That was contact...but you ignored him. Now he thinks you don't care and has given up.
Yes you should apologize for not returning his messages and explain that there are things that worry you and if he's still interested, can you meet and talk. Surely he is not that shallow to be concerned about your lack of 'financial upbringing'? I'm sure that won't matter to him...he really likes you.
I'm going thru something similar. I really want to contact this girl, but I'm thinking she only likes me as a friend. She knows I like her more then that. I don't want to bother her because it might make her uncomfortable.
Here's the thing you have to ask yourself. Do you really like him and are you willing to take a chance? Trust me, I love it when a girl contacts me. Especially if she is giving me no clues as to how she might feel about me. So my answer to you is, yes, contact him and see what can happen.
stop being such an insecure game player. just call him. get over your family already! you know the saying " you can pick your friends, but not your family. sorry they are your family. accept it and dont worry what others think about them. if somebody truely cares about you, then your family will not be an issue anyway.
unless you've been aquited for first degree murder on account of a technicality, nothing can really get in the way if someone loves you.