Question for Jehovah’s Witnesses regarding a friend?

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Question for Jehovah’s Witnesses regarding a friend?

My friend from high school who is a Jehovah's Witness got married to a man outside her faith shortly after graduation. They had 2 daughters together. Lately she's been telling me some disturbing things via text messages. Her husband does not like her leaving the house except to go to work. After work she has to go straight home. When she is able to go out, she has to bring the girls with her so her husband can ask them where they went and make she went where she said she was going to go.

Is there anything she or I can do? I know I might be sticking my nose where it doesn't belong but this sounds bad and I'm concerned.

Update:

Teller of truths: Clearly, I said something that offended you. I’m sorry, as that was never my intention. I posted my question to avoid offending. I just hope you understand how difficult it is to be watching a situation and the only thing you can do is to hope things don’t get progressively worse.

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Hello! Don't be hard on Teller, we have many haters on here that are opening accounts all the time just to slander us. Of course, we are suspicious. If you had been on this site for years you would be too. So, with that said, I have a few questions; WHY would she text you that intimate information? Especially, if her husband is that suspicious of her activities, he could see all those texts from her phone. Second, I would hope that she would talk with someone of her faith! Preferably, she would go with her husband to the elders to try and work all this out. NOW, doesn't that just sort of ring the bell for you?

How to Strengthen Your Marriage

http://www.watchtower.org/e/20030915/article_02.ht...

Anonymous

There seems to be a lot of trouble among marriage mates when it comes to a Witness marrying a nonbeliever, who is free to oppose her/his religion. That's why you should heed the apostle Paul's words on 'marrying only in the Lord,' to fellow believers. True, a wife should have deep respect for her husband.

It doesn't make me concerned that I would want to get involved. I just feel sorry for her. Who would like having a mate who stricts you from where you go, especially when you're a Witness, and your mate opposes JW's? The only thing she can do is to pray to Jehovah daily about it.

Rachel R

Try talking to her and let her get some help. Those are warning of signs of being in an abusive relationship and it could happen to anyone. Women, why I have no idea but it seems to be our flaw, are always quick to cite 'But he loves me.' when situations like these arise. What starts off as innocent concern, goes into someone fully controlling their lives. I'm sick of people saying "It's not my concern so I'll leave it." Where I live, because of that sort of thinking dozens of women have lost their lives because of a jealous spouse or significant other. Help her as much as you can, before the situation worsens. She needs to think seriously about her marriage, and if her life is being threatened and so forth. You like a good friend, should be there to support her. I know when I was in a similar situation, my friends quickly came to my aid and I was able to get out of it thanks to them. But seriously, there are probably some things you can do, but whatever it is, be very tactful about it. If she tries to talk to him, I'd suggest this be done in an open, public place with lots of people. Also too, she should weary for violent or explosive reactions. Things are tense, so you don't want to make the situation worse. But just be careful. Do as much as you can to help her. And let her realize the situation she is in, is not right in anyway at all (if she hasn't done so).

According to the Bible she is bound to her husband until death or unless he commits fornication.

She made her choice by marrying him and has to try to deal with the situation as best as possible.

Perhaps in case her husband is abusive she could ask for assistance from the authorities.

She also should communicate with her husband about the difficulties she encounters

Rock Realty

Sadly, this verse applies to your friend. Galatians 6:7 Do not be misled: God is not one to be mocked. For whatever a man is sowing, this he will also reap; It's a sad situation but it's important for her to start or more fully apply Bible principles. The articles below can help.

Can Marriage

Withstand

the Storm?

“What God has yoked together let no man put apart.”—MATTHEW 19:6.

http://www.watchtower.org/e/200607/article_01.htm

Keys to Family Happiness

Managing Conflicts

http://www.watchtower.org/e/20080201a/article_01.h...

I hope these help.

Anonymous

Well does she have a problem with it or just you? She may not think he is being unfair. If she does she really needs to talk to her husband about it not you. All you can do is support her the best you can and be a good friend.

The bible teaches the Headship arrangement 1cor 11:3 but this is not a excuse to control a persons life.

ud5

My girlfriend was brought up as a Jehovah's witness and her ex husband is one. When they seperated the church did not permit her family to speak to her for 2 years, and neither did they speak to her husband. Jehovah's Witnesses are extremely controlling and my girlfriend is now very happy she got out of that cult. I don't see where the love is in this religion. As the other contributer said, she herself has to make a choice, but I think exiting the marriage is probably a good option.