I have lost feelings for my mother after Twenty years of being her life line, my mother is not physically ill and is very capable of taking care of herself, however she chooses or rather, in her mind "needs" to live with and through me. She expects me to make her happy, yet she is impossible to make happy, and trying to make her happy has left me incredibly unhappy and withdrawn. . When I was younger and much more naive, I would try so hard to make her happy and I always failed miserably. I didn't know what was happening, I didn't understand or know of the mental illness known as " Narcissism". My mother is extremely self centered, controlling, overbearing, manipulative, she is full of pride, jealousy, hypocrisy and the list goes on n on. She can be very mean spirited and revengeful when she doesn't get her way BUT In her mind she is the most giving and caring person with the biggest heart of all. She thinks she is the "victim" here. She thinks I'm an ungrateful daughter for not seeing how much she "helps me" by being here, when the complete opposite is true. My Mother Will help you and then you will wish she never did, her help comes with a big price to pay. You owe her your life! She will cut me to pieces if I don't abide by her wishes. It can be very smothering and torturing to be around her for even minutes at a time and Im around her every day because she is living with me! I have recently started to get shaky in her presence and I think I'm developing anxiety of some sort. I have one failed marriage because my husband couldn't cope with her always being around us and moving into our home from time to time, always for this reason or that reason and not leaving, so he left. He endured a lot before he made he decision to break away. I need to finish this question in another post because I can't fit it all. I will list it under the question "Should I feel guilty for wanting a life separate from my mother?"
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tell her to ease off, that you also have a life and you want to live it the best way you can. before its too late. good luck.
Whoa thats your mom yeah teenage years are tough and your seems to be alittle demanding but still that's the women who gave birth to you and loved you since childhood. I am 14 and my mom pisses me off alot but i was brought up to respect my elders and to take care of them. Yea she is mean but dont hate her just try to live with her and be willing to deal with her.
No. No one can tell you that you are you are wrong for feeling what you are feeling. However burning bridges is never a good tying though
What does she do to you? What did she do FOR you? She does give you food, shelter, clothing and education right? So, in my opinion, I think the answer to your question is "NO".