I can’t take it anymore. I’m literally done with all of this family drama. I don’t want to tell or rant to my friends about how disappointed my parents are in me. They don’t sympathize. They just call me weird and nerdy. Most of them think I’m perfect, when they have no idea what goes on behind the scenes.
My parents have always had high standards and hopes for me. They’ve expected straight As and me being “decent” in everything. I don’t know. I just can’t do it. I’m just done. There’s so much stress right now… drama going on at school, my grades and my family.
I feel extremely confused sometimes about these things. I don’t know who I am… I don’t know what I like. I’ve always just done things the way my parents wanted them, but that doesn’t seem right either… I really don’t know what to do.
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There's nothing wrong with doing well in school. However, it is sometimes unrealistic to expect straight A's. They might like to see them, but the fact is, that they should be happy with whatever grades you are getting, so long as you are trying your best. Everyone has good and bad days. It would be interesting to see your parents report card if they were graded on everything they did.
If there's drama at school, just stay away from it. There's no rules saying you have to allow yourself to get caught up in all the garbage other people do.
You're not the only one to ever feel confused about themselves, their lives, what the future holds or anything else. Your parents are doing what they feel is right when it comes to you. A lot of times parents see the mistakes they made within their lives and they don't want to see you make the same one's. It would be nicer for you if they would explain why they prefer you to do things their way. Otherwise you won't have a clearer understanding.
You need to talk to your parents. Whichever one is more apt to actually listen to what you have to say and express to them how you're feeling and everything you're going through. Whether you want to accept it or not, your parents may have gone through the same experiences as you. They may have more understanding than what you might like to give them credit for and I do hope they stop and listen to what you have to say and allow you to grow and mature in your way and not their own.
Perhaps you've been too much of a bookworm lately and need to unplug, like go out and have fun. It's good to prepare to be a useful citizen to society like your parents obviously are preparing you to be, but you have to have some fun tool.
how old are you? you need to sit your parents down and just let them know what they are doing to you. because it's easy for them to expect certain things for you but it may not be what you want for yourself. just let them know what you want or let them know that they are confusing you and putting too much pressure on you to do what they want you to do, sometimes parents push their children because they didn't get to do thing that they want to do. but let them know that you have to go at your own speed and you don't need them to push you. i wish you well. then as soon as you can get away maybe go to college away from home take that chance. that will give you breathing room.