my husband’s Best Friend is a female
my husband’s Best Friend is a female who got divorced and has two kids. They used to meet almost every second week.
At that time he and I met her together and I thought she is just one of his friends
However they are more than friend. he more takes care of her.
I mean he hangs out her kids and her and talks on the phone for over 40mins.
He doesn’t talk much with me
He brings her kids’ photos in his wallet everyday
In addition he and she email almost everyday and reports to her everything what I say and happen he and I got.
For example I watched about PNE and they sold mini donuts there. And I said I wanted to eat it.
And I husband email his BF and said “my wife saw mini donuts on the TV I feel I have to buy it to her”
I am really upset.
Stranger peeps my life and my private married life.
She knows everything about me
And I do not understand why he reports to her everything about his and my life.
I feel I am a Truman show’s actor.
How can I deal with it!!!
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just be glad
the best friend,
is not a
she-male...
Let me start off by saying it's unfortunate that things have taken this strange path in your marriage. I don't know exactly how to fix such a thing because I'm young and unmarried.
Have you confronted him on how much this bothers you? I wouldn't do that just yet, he'll just run and tell her everything you say any way. Start off by trying to entertain him, talk to him about things you're both interested in, make him forget about her. The reason he hangs around her so much is because he feels like you two have lost that best friend connection within your marriage.
Secondly, do for yourself. Cook some delicious meals,go buy some new clothes, do things that make you happy. Once he sees that you are positive and strong...he will want to be around you more. Who said we need men 24/7 to be happy any way? :) Go out with the girls, enjoy life on your own.
Don't show anger or sadness toward him...and don't cling either. THAT will make the situation worse.
Do what I said, take up some hobbies, spice it up!
Good luck, you're a strong beautiful woman. Don't forget it.
email me if you need more advice/a friend. I'm Tara.> [email protected]
Even though your husband may not be sleeping with this woman, he has still crossed the line into an inappropriate friendship. He is a married man and has no business being this close to another woman. If I were you I'd speak to the other woman and tell her that you want her to end the relationship with your husband because she is way over the boundary that she should have toward your family.
I believe you should confront head on! Talk to your hubby. Tell him you feel disrespected when he takes your marital issues out of the house..especially to another woman! And sadly at this point it might have gone beyond a friendship...
I know I would have said something sooner...your man is basically married and dating...and bragging about some one Else's kids...there is more to this...ask questions..If all else fails(he refuses to stop seeing this woman) move on honey!
I don't believe a man and a woman can be friends without sex getting in the way!
There is something very fishy about his friendship with his female friend. I wonder how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot, and you were the one with a male friend going above and beyond for him. It would be interesting to see his reaction.
I know it can be frustrating, however I have a Male Best Friend. I have known him since the 5th grade and now we are both 24. We dated on and off while growing up and my boyfriend hates the fact that I have him as a friend. We are similar, now I have backed off a little from talking to him everyday to talking to him about 1 or 2 times a week, because I have tried to respect my Boyfriends feelings about it. He knows we dated, he has met him and knows he is a nice person, but he still doesn't trust us together. I don't hang out with my best friend by myself, I try to always include my boyfriend so he knows. But it' still doesn't help because my boyfriend is still a little jealous. I have learned to not tell my best friend about all of my Business when it comes to my boyfriend and I, and my best friend knows there has to be limits to what we do together now. He is still in my daughter's life, and she loves hanging out with him, so I try to include him in outings with all of us together. It's very understandable to get upset and jealous, but just be confident in your relationship/Marriage and explain to him that you don't feel it's right he tells her everything, that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Have you ever tried to explain to him how it makes you feel, if not, do so. Guarantee he will say sorry and try to cut back on how much time he spends with her, or invite you everytime he does. You are his wife, he will ultimately choose you, but don't make it seem you are making him choose. That will put him on guard, because it did to me when my boyfriend told me to choose. Good luck and stay patient!
I feel he is the father of her children.
That's outrageous.He's a pig and those kids are probably his!
Too late, he has probably been pumping her for ages!!