My fiancé and I have been together for 4 yrs and just recently got engaged. I love this man and couldn't imagine life without um. the only "lacking" in the relationship is the sex. I am only 20 years old (he is 25). we have sex maybe once a month. addmittatly I've gain som weight since we've first got together but no more than ten lbs. I'm having a hard time talking with him about it and I'm running out of ideas to "spice it up" I know a leading factor is that we no longer sleep together (the bed is too soft) so we are missing intimate together time. I also know he isn't cheating on me (he doesn't have the time). I have done everything to take all the stressors off his back (work three jobs for $ and sill playing traditional wife roles) what more can a poor girl do!?