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I think you should first give her a taste of what she's doing, I mean if she's in a relationship she should be worried about you and your family unless she still has feelings for her ex hoping if she stays around he'll take her back but honestly if its a problem you don't have to be with someone that try's switching the situation by putting you down for your feelings of her actions. She's not crying because the family she's crying because she misses her ex & that's the closest way she can stay involved with him

Sure, I believe you might be doing the correct factor. It can be relatively tremendous of you to take your kids to those features, or at the very least allow them to attend. Obviously probably the most household individuals think you're beautiful cool too, or they wouldn't invite you. I might make it clear to these people how so much you admire and appreciate their warm gestures towards you and your children. Inform them how main it's to you, and that you just wouldn't need to motive the X agony in any respect. I believe you and your youngsters are very fortunate to have this sane household in your lives. It might be a lot worse, do not you realize? There's an effective risk that your kids will develop up being respectable, respectful and affordable participants when you hold showing them by means of such good example. Good for you! How fresh to listen to anyone making use of their head for a change. Maintain it up, and excellent luck.

Don't go.

Tell her u r going to spend time with Ur exs family...when she does.

It's funny how many assume that because there a divorce it MUST have been messy with the exes hating each other so why should she feel for her ex-inlaws? I am friends with my ex-husband, though we don't hang out and barely talk because he has a girlfriend whom he loves and he respects his girlfriend and I respect their relationship.

That being said, I LOVE his mother, she was like a mother to me and I wish i could spend time with her. She is moving to Florida and I asked my ex if it would be okay to visit her and we would coordinate it so that if he's there with his girlfriend I won't be there. There is nothing wrong with her loving her ex-in-laws. There IS something wrong with crying about it 24-7 for months and expecting you to 'understand' it and calling you insensitive to her feelings because YOU feel uncomfortable. There is something wrong with expecting you to hang out with them.

If you don't mind her spending time with them, then I'd sit her down and tell her that while you don't mind her spending time with them, it's wrong her of her to demand you to do so, that you're okay with her spending time with them but she shouldn't force you into a situation that is way outside your comfort zone. Try to understand that just because it didn't work out for her and her ex-husband, doesn't mean that his family feels any less for her or she for them. It DOES mean that she has to get a grip on herself and stop demanding so much from you.

If you're not okay with her spending time with them, then you have a problem because you can't force her to drop whatever people in her life that she wants but she IS going to have to decide who is more important to her. Try explaining your feelings if you feel she needs to put them in the past and definitely tell her that she is wrong to expect you to hang out with them and that she just needs to choose who is more important to her, you or them. But perhaps something else can be worked out.

If she can't get that, you may need to really think out your relationship because it sounds as if she's too emotionally demanding and needy and you need to realize that this kind of person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Can you truly handle that? Most people overlook this because they 'love' the other person so much and then 5 years later they are SICK of having such emotional demands placed on them that they get a divorce. Be be 100% SURE you can handle such emotional demands because if you know you can't, the kindest thing you can do is leave her. I know that sounds harsh and cruel but it would hurt her even more to have yet another marriage that has failed. It can really hurt her sense of worth and her confidence in holding a marriage together when, in reality, it would be mostly your fault for not being emotionally honest with yourself. After all, it's not like you didn't know what you were getting into..... :)

God bless and good luck.

ADDON: Though I can understand her loving her exes family, I don't get constantly crying over them. I don't cry over my mother in law and she was more of a mother to me than my own mother was. So that part is really confusing me....

o wow,that is WEIRD!! first thing--you are not wrong for feeling uncomfortable about this.you should be worried if you didnt feel that way! what is she doing hanging out with them?is that also including her ex?no good would come of hanging out with them,im sure her ex hates it and also any future (or current) gf's her ex has!fair enough she misses them,but there the past-she needs to let them know that,and not end things badly but just to end things on a good term and leave it in the past.Its weird she sees them,but for her to drag you along????isnt right!!If she was a caring fiance she should 100% understand where youre coming from and respect your feelings towards all this,she hasnt got a right being angry,should be the other way around.talk to her,let her know in a serious way you dont like it,if shes a good fiance shell understand if she refuses to change or at least compromise,it might be worth rethinking your rship and if you wanna be with someone who doesnt care about what you want.good luck!!

if she can not move on from her past and she has brought this baggage into your relationship by the way she is being unreasnoble totally to expect you to accept this situation she has to move on and let them go or you will need to move on and leave her otherwise it will be a toxic relationship you will never be happy and she has not put you or your feelings first get out if i were you plenty more fish in the sea