Been getting even more angry this past week and really starting to not be able to hold my temper with him at all. Ok so he moved in with me just over 2 years ago and when he first moved in he would sit on his **** and not help me clean yet would happily make a mess. I got so sick of it after a month (and I didn't want to argue so just kept quite about it) that I started to go out after work leaving him sat in his own mess and eventually he started to clean up after himself. This went on for about 6 months then it slowly ceased. He wasn't helping me anymore and my hours at work got put up so rather than doing 9 while 5 I was working 6am till 11pm everyday for 2 weeks at a time before Ii would get a 2 day weekend off then Ii would do it all over again. So I had no time to clean and on my only 4 days off a month I was expected by him to chase after and clean up after him. Last year I lost my temper with him over it and kicked him out for a few days because I was not living any more. All I was doing was going to work sleeping and cleaning up after him. I never even saw my friends and I became beyond depressed. Anyway I changed jobs so I would still have good pay but more days off in hope it would fix this yet it didn't fully. To this day he does help sometimes but my carpet is ruined because he spills drinks and leaves it. He drops ashtrays and leaves it. His clothes are still in his suitcase from our holiday that we got back from 2 months ago and I am sick of asking him to sort it out and lets just put it this way...my home used to be really nice, it cost a lot of money and time to get it how I wanted it and now I am ashamed to have my own mum round because it just looks like it needs redoing again and looks like someone has been throwing muck everywhere. It is clean because I have to spend 4 hours a day cleaning it but there are stains everywhere and I feel so depressed just sitting in here seeing it. I don't know what to do. I love him so much and I know I can't change him but how do I make him realize what this is doing to me. I suffer with depression anyway and Bipolar 2 and it is very hard to stay calm over all this. Could you live like this for 2 years? I have a COD with things being clean and I am scared if I pay out another few grande to fix the place up all over again he is gonna ruin it all again. :( this is just making me so mad and I need to know what to do for him to see once and for all. He has trashed everything over the 2 years, my sofa, my carpets, my bathroom, the kitchen is ruined and he has put holes in my doors :( I don't know what he must be doing but I am sick of arguing over it and I do try to stay calm but he says "yeah I will start helping you clean and stop making a mess I promise" but he never keeps to it for longer than 2 hours and that'ss the truth. talking wont work, breaking up or kicking him out is not an option any other ideas?

Yeah well your rude. I have dyslexia and can not help if I am no good with spelling and grammar.