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Are you his spouse? No, you're the latest chick he's decided to shack up with and promise marriage to. They won't let you anywhere near the testing lab or the courtroom when it comes time. She may be present for the testing, but not likely. They like to keep parents separate so they don't have to deal with the drama if they don't have to. She will be there in the courtroom and you will not.

My advice and experience is this, although courts in different states do differ somewhat.

If he wants to have a paternity test done, which is his right and HE SHOULD, then he will probably be responsible for paying for it, or for some of it. The woman WILL be in court. I do not believe the child will be (but it depends on the age of the child and how the court in your state does things). If I were you, I would NOT sit by your fiance. My reason for this is you do not want the judge getting irritated with your fiance (the court looks at it as if you have nothing to do with the case, even if you were already married it would be the same-does not involve you), and the second reason is that emotions will probably be running high, and you do not want the mother of the child getting irrated because you are with him. This is a situation that was caused by their actions and you were not part of that. If there is not a problem between you and the child's mother, I do not see anything wrong with you sitting in the open galley to show support for your fiance. If there is a problem between you, you need to sit outside of the courtroom. Look at like the more you irritate her, the more she is going to irritate your fiance, then the more stress he will be under and more stress on your relationship. You can support him in many different ways-and talk to him about it.

After the judge orders a paternity test, he will be notified of when/where. The childs appt. will most likely be around same time. Then a letter will be sent to him letting him know results. **I would have him ask the judge if he can be notified of results. He might have to request that of the DNA lab.

Then, if he is the father, he will be notified of another court date to set up child support/visitaion.

That should give you a basic outline of what will happen. Hope this helps and good luck.

I'm in California. Anyone can go in the courtroom but they may ask you to leave. She is supposed to be there. The judge will hear both sides, make the order for paternity test & the issue will be revisited, usually at a later date. Good luck.

You and he can sit in the courtroom, but he will be the only one allowed to approach the judge's podium. She will be there or she loses by default. The child won't be there as children are not allowed to be in the courtroom at all. [Incidentally, if you are sneaky enough to figure out a way for her not to show up...]. :)

The potential baby moms should be there, but as for the child, not necessarily in the courtroom...most likely in the judges chambers. As for you, they may or may not allow you to be in the courtroom being you, yourself have no "interest" in the case in a judges eyes.