I am now in my home country and having a problem with my visa. My fiancé (of the 2.5 years) is applying for a fiancé visa for me. But this process is taking about 6-7 months. I can't go to USA as the rules have required me to stay outside USA. My fiancé hates my country because there are lots of corruptions and bad policemen. He scares that he might get mugged or get blamed about drugs and has to be in jail. I have been trying to tell him that there are two sides of the story. Everywhere has good and bad people. I don't know what to do. He seems so scare and hate my country so badly. :,( what should I do?
Update:I stayed in USA with him for over 2 years before I came to my country. I have been getting along well except he always thinks that he is right .
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Wait, once you get here and get married, you have to stay with him for a while before they consider your marriage legitimate, and you can legally leave him.
Your man has decided he doesn't like an entire country without ever having set foot in it? Then he's not a real man, he's a scared little boy looking over his shouloder to see who's goinig to jump out and get him. What he really is....is a bigot who believes that America is number one and everybody else is dangerous. That is a horribly ignorant position. Whatever made you become engaged to a childish, stupid man like this? I'm assuming that you plan on never seeing your home country or your family again, because of his irrational fears. He will not let you go back to visit and if you do, he won't go with you. Not exactly a heaalthy relationship. Find someone with a fully-developed world view, not some backwards hillbilly that can't see past their own yard.
Show him a video about the good side of the country and show him a video of the bad side of his own country then he would realise something, he's just focusing too much on the negative.
Here's Portland in America. I never knew about this place but it looks neat and safe. By they way I am in the Uk. Never been to America ever so I guess it counts?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fiGwc6Ih2U&feature...
And welcome to America video with American theme songs.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWQzvhE5enw
Tell him he will be only coming as tourist anyways and they get better treatment
Sounds like he does not really love or trust you. Forget about him and look for someone else